Post by goldilocks on Jul 22, 2018 19:35:03 GMT
I don't think this is universal to DA women in or out of a committed relationship. I am a DA woman by the way. What could be a turn off is when an AP mate is seeing sex as a means to get validation or attention rather than an expression of love and lust.
Otherwise, start with the basics. Are you both physically healthy? Are your hormones in balance? See a doctor if not.
Are you both physically fit? No? Go do some sports together and cook nutritious meals.
Are you getting enough sleep and relaxation? Get what you both need.
How about your mental health? Are you both happy, do you meditate, do you get stimulated mentally and express your creativity? Do you have fun and play?
If both of you have vibrant mental and phusical health, but lack desire, you could start some practices that forcus on building polarity and attraction. Role play, as was mentioned earlier is one way of many. Do you know what her kinks and fantasies are? Do you know what her favorite things are physically?
What I would not do is try to convince her intellectually that your needs are valid and it is up to her to meet it. You might well convince her of the obligation, but it will not make her horny. From what you write, there is no lack of basic willingness but there is a lack of desire.
Otherwise, start with the basics. Are you both physically healthy? Are your hormones in balance? See a doctor if not.
Are you both physically fit? No? Go do some sports together and cook nutritious meals.
Are you getting enough sleep and relaxation? Get what you both need.
How about your mental health? Are you both happy, do you meditate, do you get stimulated mentally and express your creativity? Do you have fun and play?
If both of you have vibrant mental and phusical health, but lack desire, you could start some practices that forcus on building polarity and attraction. Role play, as was mentioned earlier is one way of many. Do you know what her kinks and fantasies are? Do you know what her favorite things are physically?
What I would not do is try to convince her intellectually that your needs are valid and it is up to her to meet it. You might well convince her of the obligation, but it will not make her horny. From what you write, there is no lack of basic willingness but there is a lack of desire.
