Post by anne12 on May 19, 2018 20:33:16 GMT
Tips to the dismissive avoidant from an attatchment therapist:
Practice to give the relationship meaning . Use your head! What can the relationship with this person offer you/bring to your life?
Date the same person minimum 5 times.
Try to think of the person in front of you as "good enough."
When you want to drop a potential partner, try to think about, why you want to do that. Is it about the person or is it because you are trying to protect yourself?
Be aware of your state of mind/your body language/your tone of voice. It can make you seem distant and un aprochable. Use different exercises breathing / grounding exercises. Think of a person with kind eyes (get inspired with Diane Poole Hellers kind eye exercise) aso to loosen up
Are you walking around in your own little bubble, so that you are not noticing when people are smiling at you or are trying to flirt with you?
Practice reashing out to other people even if it feels akward. Visit your friends and family, go out and drink coffee with a colleague.
Do not text but call up your friends, family, your date instead.
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Practice asking for help. Let other people give you love, compassion aso. Allow them to be interested in getting to know you.
Practice the secure exersice for all attatchmentstyles:
Sit on a chair. Feel your seat knots legs and feet. Take 3 deep breaths. Now imagine a person or an animal you could count on from your past or present. Imagine the person/the animal standing by your side supporting you (a person from your own life - dead or alive) Feel the sensations in your body thinking of this person. Notice the shift in your breath and your body.
Practice "the love journey exersice" (not posted yet)
Practice to give the relationship meaning . Use your head! What can the relationship with this person offer you/bring to your life?
Date the same person minimum 5 times.
Try to think of the person in front of you as "good enough."
When you want to drop a potential partner, try to think about, why you want to do that. Is it about the person or is it because you are trying to protect yourself?
Be aware of your state of mind/your body language/your tone of voice. It can make you seem distant and un aprochable. Use different exercises breathing / grounding exercises. Think of a person with kind eyes (get inspired with Diane Poole Hellers kind eye exercise) aso to loosen up
Are you walking around in your own little bubble, so that you are not noticing when people are smiling at you or are trying to flirt with you?
Practice reashing out to other people even if it feels akward. Visit your friends and family, go out and drink coffee with a colleague.
Do not text but call up your friends, family, your date instead.
.
Practice asking for help. Let other people give you love, compassion aso. Allow them to be interested in getting to know you.
Practice the secure exersice for all attatchmentstyles:
Sit on a chair. Feel your seat knots legs and feet. Take 3 deep breaths. Now imagine a person or an animal you could count on from your past or present. Imagine the person/the animal standing by your side supporting you (a person from your own life - dead or alive) Feel the sensations in your body thinking of this person. Notice the shift in your breath and your body.
Practice "the love journey exersice" (not posted yet)