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Post by seeking on Mar 19, 2024 2:26:06 GMT
Curious how others ended up in the relationship they're in now?
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Post by lovebunny on Mar 20, 2024 13:42:24 GMT
My current boyfriend of a couple months and my last boyfriend of 3 years both found on Facebook Dating. Last guy was hardcore FA, new guy is self-aware AP same as me. His energy from day 1 has been the opposite of push-pull, he's been like "I'd like to lock this down. What do you require for me to do that?"
I rarely meet date-able people out in the wild. My clients are all tourists, I spend too much time in LGBTQ spaces to meet straight guys, and lesbians here are all coupled up. Online dating has been my reality for many years now.
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Post by alexandra on Mar 20, 2024 17:12:45 GMT
Online dating, but I've been out of it for a few years now and have been reading that internet dating and apps have gotten more and more difficult to navigate. They have consolidated as all owned by the same company, and they are all aimed at getting more and more monetized (I'm assuming earlier tech and VC funding dried up when the pandemic and inflation and economic issues and high interest rates happened). It's not the most optimistic outlook on the sites, but I'm assuming you need to take even more time on them to form actual connections because the apps aren't really incentivized to work in your favor if they're getting more balanced towards making money than towards user experience. Meaning, if you're not having luck on them at all anymore, it's probably not your fault.
As an example, Bumble used to send little free care packages if you told them you were getting married or having a baby after meeting on their app. Now they have a store you can buy branded items from, nothing free to celebrate a successful match story and removal from the service (assuming that was your goal).
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Post by introvert on Mar 21, 2024 18:14:39 GMT
Honestly, I was dating MYSELF when he approached me. I was engaged in my favorite hobby in a public place, he greeted me and asked to join me and I said no thanks. That would have been it but I noticed he was accomplished at the sport so stopped to chat on my way out. A few months of very brief and sporadic platonic interaction and he asked me out.
I'm a big believer in, it wil find you wherever you are... your next lesson is right around the corner, no need to go looking. That's just me. And when I say lesson, that's what I mean. Single is a lesson too and if you're single then there's a reason for that... fix the reason and then whatever relationship you're ready for (good or bad) will turn up.
I met him right after I had made a commitment to honoring myself and keeping boundaries, I sharpened up my self respect game, and I was fully engaged in enjoying my life, it was a nice time.
Bummer I ruined it with a relationship. Just kidding! But the grass is always greener right? Not talking about cheating, talking about single<relationship, relationship<single ... bwahahaa
Not all think that if you build it, they will come. I do.
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