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Post by exhausteddecay on Jun 29, 2018 18:12:57 GMT
Has anyone ever been in a FA-FA relationship or friendship?
What was your experience?
There is almost no information on the internet or anywhere elsewhere I've searched.
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Post by Deleted on Jun 29, 2018 18:23:26 GMT
the lack of information stems from the fact that when these two meet, spontaneous combustion occurs and there is nothing remaining but ash in the wind.
just kidding, of course.
this pairing is bound to be tumultuous but could happen, no matter what the literature says.
i was recently part of a DA/DA pairing that i appreciated a lot, and derived a lot of growth from, in spite of the fact that the literature says it couldn't happen.
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Post by tnr9 on Jun 29, 2018 21:14:46 GMT
I think pairings of the same attachment style can works...it really depends on the degree of the attachment wounding and how each is attuned to his/he own triggers and the triggers of his/her partner. I have not found an AP that I want to date..but I am sure that pairing does exist.
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Post by ocarina on Jun 29, 2018 21:30:56 GMT
Has anyone ever been in a FA-FA relationship or friendship? What was your experience? There is almost no information on the internet or anywhere elsewhere I've searched. Yes - my experience is that two people with disorganised attachment styles don't make a healed whole! We were attracted by the distancing on both sides, but ended up in some kind of dysfunctional dance, with few boundaries, poor communication, swinging between undying love and never wanting to see each other again because it was easier to live without feeling anything. It lasted seven years - and in the end when I began to treat myself with some kindness and set some boundaries in the relationship, I ended it because I realised that he was not able to meet my emotional needs consistently. |
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Post by gaynxious on Jul 19, 2018 21:01:00 GMT
I’d say there is little info out there because the pairing is so rare. Yes it happens but the data to be had is anecdotal. One study on attachment style pairings couldn’t even find one avoidant-avoidant pairing in the entire sample, so imagine two FAs pairing and pairing long enough to be captured by such a study and then enough of these pairings to be captured to draw any conclusive insight.
That said jeb does have a quick description in his attachment style pairings page. It’s pretty easy to google if you put his full name and attachment style pairings in.
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