Post by gaynxious on Jan 23, 2017 22:05:16 GMT
So from what I have read, the most likely pairing of attachment styles to produce long term relationships is secure-secure with the second being anxious-avoidant. It seems contradictory to me that 'research' shows secure-insecure pairings to be equally happy to secure-secure pairings if these relationships do not, on average, last as long as secure-secure.
Also, while most literature takes great effort to paint anxious and avoidant types as equally problematic, the findings that avoidants are more over represented in the dating population even more so than anxious would imply avoidants typically have less successful relationships.
Or is it merely that avoidants begin dating immediately whereas the anxious licks their wounds or immediately jumps into a relationship at the first opportunity?
Or is it that avoidants form relationships with a smaller percentage of the population, avoidant-avoidant relationships being exceedingly rare even compared to anxious-anxious relationships?
Any insights on reconciling these findings?
Also, while most literature takes great effort to paint anxious and avoidant types as equally problematic, the findings that avoidants are more over represented in the dating population even more so than anxious would imply avoidants typically have less successful relationships.
Or is it merely that avoidants begin dating immediately whereas the anxious licks their wounds or immediately jumps into a relationship at the first opportunity?
Or is it that avoidants form relationships with a smaller percentage of the population, avoidant-avoidant relationships being exceedingly rare even compared to anxious-anxious relationships?
Any insights on reconciling these findings?
