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Post by tnr9 on Jul 22, 2018 13:55:19 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2018 17:00:00 GMT
Hey tnr9 - I'm feeling really alone and sad atm.
Reparenting is so crucial yet so hard!
I wasn't allowed to 'tantrum' - I could cry (which is what I seemed to spend my childhood doing) but I never tantrum'ed.
Does this still apply?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2018 17:44:18 GMT
Yes - I wasn't allowed to cry a lot of the time, but I was regularly taunted and bullied to push me to do so, ... and then punished for crying.
I am highly, highly sensitive - but I wasn't allowed to express myself in any way at all.
I learnt to express nothing.
That's probably been my biggest learning - that my feelings, experiences and expressions are allowed, in a 'normal' world.
Now, I express myself - although I now find it hard to cry...
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Post by tnr9 on Jul 22, 2018 22:44:19 GMT
Quote from Rebecca Eanes: “So often, children are punished for being human. Children are not allowed to have grumpy moods, bad days, disrespectful tones, or bad attitudes, yet we adults have them all the time! We think if we don't nip it in the bud, it will escalate and we will lose control. Let go of that unfounded fear and give your child permission to be human. We all have days like that. None of us are perfect, and we must stop holding our children to a higher standard of perfection than we can attain ourselves. All of the punishments you could throw at them will not stamp out their humanity, for to err is human, and we all do it sometimes.” www.goodreads.com/quotes/843178-so-often-children-are-punished-for-being-human-children-are |
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