question about poole heller test

Oh..that is interesting...

pie chart numbers
Secure 37%
Anxious 37%
Disorganized 17.4%
Dismissive 8.7%

Other numbers
Secure 17
Anxious 17
Disorganized 8
Dismissive 4

That is a good question....I don't know.

Ambivalently attached people have had caregivers who were on again off again, inconsistently tending and attuning to the child. Because of the lack of consistency the child doubts whether their needs will be met and is on the constant look out for cues and clues to how their behavior may or may not influence the parent’s responses. Over time they find themselves on an emotional see saw of needs being met and not being met. Their object relation is “I can want, but cannot have.”

You may observe that in ambivalent attachment styles there is a tendency to be chronically dissatisfied. First, there is a tendency to project their own familial history onto their relationship. Secondly if the other person becomes available, they become unavailable! Unaccustomed to receiving love, having it available doesn’t fit their profile of “still wanting”. Over time partners of Ambivalent people can be discouraged by their love being dismissed and the loss of the relationship can be the both the feared and created outcome.

Wow....the above...especially the part about the see saw...that was so on point...along with how my behavior may or may not influence my parent's response.😳

and our "other numbers don't add up to the same so that can't be it.
yours is 46 and mine is 34 if i read right.


we need anne12 she probably knows!

Yeh...the math is a bit weird...cannot figure that one out.

Exactly...let's see if someone else will take the test...perhaps brokenbiscuit or mrob so we get another perspective.

Secure 18
Disorganized 18
Avoidant/Dismissive 14
Ambivalent/Anxious 13


Secure 28%
Disorganized 28%
Avoidant 22%
Ambivalent anxious 20%

wtf 😂 what am I!?!

I did the Jeb test a month or two back which focuses a lot more on parental questions (the Poole Heller one appears generic relationship) and I went high for neuroticism, low for concientuouseness but got a near perfect score for the "open to experience" category which chimes correctly with my personality.

For that test my general score was FA and my relationship score was teetering on the edge between FA and AP which feels right to me if I'm being truthful with myself. As terrified as I am about relationship commitment, I do still crave them more than I fear them. I push and pull, but push a lot more.

Woah....you got higher scores....🏆😜....maybe you have a secret power.

Haha you are very well rounded by the looks of those numbers lol!!!
you spread it around pretty good, very balanced of you.
😂