Post by fcmccloud on Aug 25, 2018 12:14:49 GMT
Hi all, first post!
I’m a 25 y/o M who recently discovered that I am anxious-preoccupied after searching the internet for answers to explain my negative feelings. To start of, I was raised in a traditional family where it’s frowned upon to have sex before marriage. I wasn’t absolutely on board, but knew that I’d only have sex if I was in a serious relationship. Around the time I was 18 I started a long distance relationship with a family friend that lasted about 2.5 years. We’ve only met physically once and had no sexual encounters. Albeit, we had extremely strong feelings for each other and felt that we truly loved each other at that age. When I was 24, I thought it was about time that I lose my virginity. I was sort of fed up with thinking it was something special and just wanted to get it over with. I tried sharing relations with a girl I knew I had feelings for me, but during intercourse I just couldn’t stay aroused so it didn’t last.
7 months ago I started dating my gf. It was my first close range relationship where we were very physically active in the beginning. Now things have extremely slowed down where we’ll have relations 1-2 a month. Anyhow, she has had 2-3 past boyfriends and a few other sexual encounters. I know it’s wrong, but I can’t help to think less of her for the fact that she’s had sexual experiences with a lot more people than I have. And I can’t help but imagine with these people and get upset. I hope it’s normal, but I’d like to get over this. I knew she was sexual when I first was interested in talking to her, and I like that she does enjoy sex. It stinks that I’m exploring sex while she’s probably already done everything.
She shows full interest in me in her own ways (too shy to say it in person but will spill her heart out via text). She’s about 1.5 years younger, so I understand the immaturity (if that’s what it is). I’ve brought it up a few times and she’s responded by saying how I’m better than anyone she’s been with before. I keep getting upset thinking about it, and she’s getting a bit frustrated that I can’t get over this. Thank you all.
I’m a 25 y/o M who recently discovered that I am anxious-preoccupied after searching the internet for answers to explain my negative feelings. To start of, I was raised in a traditional family where it’s frowned upon to have sex before marriage. I wasn’t absolutely on board, but knew that I’d only have sex if I was in a serious relationship. Around the time I was 18 I started a long distance relationship with a family friend that lasted about 2.5 years. We’ve only met physically once and had no sexual encounters. Albeit, we had extremely strong feelings for each other and felt that we truly loved each other at that age. When I was 24, I thought it was about time that I lose my virginity. I was sort of fed up with thinking it was something special and just wanted to get it over with. I tried sharing relations with a girl I knew I had feelings for me, but during intercourse I just couldn’t stay aroused so it didn’t last.
7 months ago I started dating my gf. It was my first close range relationship where we were very physically active in the beginning. Now things have extremely slowed down where we’ll have relations 1-2 a month. Anyhow, she has had 2-3 past boyfriends and a few other sexual encounters. I know it’s wrong, but I can’t help to think less of her for the fact that she’s had sexual experiences with a lot more people than I have. And I can’t help but imagine with these people and get upset. I hope it’s normal, but I’d like to get over this. I knew she was sexual when I first was interested in talking to her, and I like that she does enjoy sex. It stinks that I’m exploring sex while she’s probably already done everything.
She shows full interest in me in her own ways (too shy to say it in person but will spill her heart out via text). She’s about 1.5 years younger, so I understand the immaturity (if that’s what it is). I’ve brought it up a few times and she’s responded by saying how I’m better than anyone she’s been with before. I keep getting upset thinking about it, and she’s getting a bit frustrated that I can’t get over this. Thank you all.
