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Post by kristyrose on Sept 7, 2018 17:40:32 GMT
Hi Everyone,
So most of us on here have experienced trauma and are either in therapy of working our way towards it.
I've been in cognitive behavioral therapy for 7 years and EMDR most recently for the past year to uncover and reprocess childhood trauma that I've long avoided all of my adult life.
I'm AP moving towards earned Secure for context.
I have also been reading a book called The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk, M.D. recommended by my therapist. The book explains how we store trauma in the body and how it affects us both mentally and physiologically.
I'd recommend BOTH as ways to help uncover the painful past and move into a safer present. I'm learning how to re-parent myself as well as find my safe space within me versus looking outward towards my partner.
Just posting here in case anyone has questions about the EMDR process and how its helped me, and also the book is a wonderful resource for us all!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 7, 2018 18:37:12 GMT
I would love to know if you think EMDR has worked for you and in what way? I looked into it, but from what I read, they say it doesn't work very well for people who are not in touch with their feelings or if it's trauma related to repeated incidents. I didn't think I was a very good candidate for it.
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Post by kristyrose on Sept 8, 2018 18:47:41 GMT
Hi Mary!
I need to head out today, but wanted you to know that I will gladly respond to this thread in detail for you and others! Hope you have a wonderful day :-)
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2018 18:59:34 GMT
hey i just thought i'd chime in since this is where all the Gods are hanging out.
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Post by kristyrose on Sept 8, 2018 19:01:40 GMT
LOL! right?!!
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2018 22:08:09 GMT
hey i just thought i'd chime in since this is where all the Gods are hanging out. 😄 LOL! I just joined the God club recently  |
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Post by Deleted on Sept 8, 2018 23:25:23 GMT
hey i just thought i'd chime in since this is where all the Gods are hanging out. 😄 LOL! I just joined the God club recently i don't know when i made it, but i've just been participating extensively to keep my recovery strong. I can't take deactivating any more i just hate it. but it's getting better and being on this forum has been HUGE for me! |
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Post by epicgum on Sept 9, 2018 6:39:24 GMT
"The body keeps score" reminds me of what my meditation teacher said which is that stress accumulates in the body over time.
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Post by tnr9 on Sept 9, 2018 14:16:14 GMT
A while back...there was a discussion on noticing changes via your body versus your emotions...I thought that was very interesting as I thought there was a tendency for those with AP to notice emotions but be really out of touch with their body and vice versa for DAs. I probably am generalizing it a bit...but I think it is important to have access to both. I believe that by ignoring signals from my body and being much more keyed into my emotions, I have stayed far longer in situations where my body knew it was not right, but my emotions were still keyed in on hope.
Also...as a side note...500 posts/replies seems to be the magic number to become a God on this forum. I wondered if 1,000 would change that title yet again..but neither Juniper or I have changed so I guess Godis the highest status.🙂
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Post by Deleted on Sept 9, 2018 16:09:24 GMT
APs use hope as their mantra, their beacon of light and DAs have given it up entirely. Secure is probably somewhere in between.
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Post by epicgum on Sept 9, 2018 19:33:03 GMT
A while back...there was a discussion on noticing changes via your body versus your emotions...I thought that was very interesting as I thought there was a tendency for those with AP to notice emotions but be really out of touch with their body and vice versa for DAs. I probably am generalizing it a bit...but I think it is important to have access to both. I believe that by ignoring signals from my body and being much more keyed into my emotions, I have stayed far longer in situations where my body knew it was not right, but my emotions were still keyed in on hope. Also...as a side note...500 posts/replies seems to be the magic number to become a God on this forum. I wondered if 1,000 would change that title yet again..but neither Juniper or I have changed so I guess Godis the highest status.🙂 I met a guy years ago who was interested in the "quantified self" movement which basically were people who used gadgets to try to track their bios and better understand themselves. Tracking sleep cycles, diet, pulse etc. Unfortunatly theres no one-stop shop gadget that makes it easy, but I theory it sounds like something that would be very useful for insecures who are not good at understanding their feelings. |
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