Spiritual reparenting / inner child resources

I let my therapist know I wanted to do inner child work, and she initiated it in a session when it fit my process. Whenever I learn what my inner child has lacked, either in therapy or through spontaneous experience, I think of ways to be the good parent and meet this need.

I realized my unmet need for safety on my own, and cried for my inner child and the danger she had been in. Feeling grateful to be alive and knowing I deserve to be safe, I moved to a different house and made steps to have a more secure life. As an adult, living in a safe neighbourhood and taking a taxi when coming home late are some simple ways to show your inner child you value safety and will provide it. Of course you are now meeting the needs of an adult.

In therapy I realized an unmet need for patience. My therapist asked me while I was smiling though I felt sad. She asked me why, and I said there is no time to be said, we must carry on and be on time. She asked me how old I felt and it was about 6 or 7. So now, if I feel sad or any other feeling, I take the time to feel my feelings, even if I need to spend 10 minutes in the bathroom or go for a small walk.

I did tell my mother about the latter experience, but made it clear I was not coming to her with expectations. She told me that when I was 6, she stuffed her own feelings to get working and raising me done and she had not realised it affected me too.

hi camper78,
i just saw this, i'm sorry i'm not in a place to support, my dear friend passed yesterday and i will be away for a while.
i'm lost. but i know there is tons of support here foenyiu and great resources.
hugs