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Post by tnr9 on Oct 10, 2018 19:45:25 GMT
One thing that I am so thrilled about is now that I am better able to regulate my emotions...is that I can really think about which behaviors have suited me and which have not. I am beginning to incorporate "the pause". The pause is where I start to go down a story or an assumption (be it personal or work related) and while I am in it...there is this "space" where I can ask myself...is this a correct assumption or am I just jumping to a conclusion? It is incredibly helpful in stressful situations where I usually just go with what feels right in the moment but has not been properly vetted by reason/logic. In the past, going forward with feelings...especially in the work place, has led to some poor judgement calls...same thing in my relationships (further on that in another thread). Has anyone else found new behaviors that are helping them make better choices?
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Post by ocarina on Oct 10, 2018 22:32:36 GMT
So good to hear that you are thriving. The pause has been crucial to me in all aspects of life. The pause for me involves spending a very short time becoming grounded in the body and watching what my mind is up to and then from this place of centre, making a choice that is not a knee jerk reaction, a choice that will lead to my positive future - perhaps in the short term it won't be instant gratification, but in the long term it will lead to sustainable contentment. For example - when I am stressed, I could jump for the nearest chocolate, but instead, I could pause, take a moment or two and then choose my ultimate path of self care, strength and health and thus forego the chocolate and maybe go for a walk or something instead. Easy little steps. Tara puts in beautifully: www.tarabrach.com/sacred-pause/The Happiness Trap - love it, the choice point video gives examples of how we have choice as long as we take a moment to pause and choose. www.actmindfully.com.au/free-stuff/free-videos/ |
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Post by Deleted on Oct 11, 2018 2:28:44 GMT
I give myself space to feel the emotions and hear the voices, and then have a little laugh at myself for reacting as such. It might be very justified that I'm angry with someone for doing something, but then i tell myself, it'll happen once and never again. I'm also watching this show called Elementary where Lucy Liu plays Joan Watson, and I draw strength from that by thinking - ah ha, that's the kind of woman i'd like to be and what kind of behaviors do I have to learn and mirror, in order to be a stronger version of myself.
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