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Post by Deleted on Nov 7, 2018 21:29:55 GMT
Forgiveness isn’t for them. It’s so you can get on with your life. Holding onto resentment is like drinking the poison and expecting them to die. Resentment is the number one killer, I truly believe this now 😥 |
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Anger
Nov 8, 2018 16:49:00 GMT
Post by liz on Nov 8, 2018 16:49:00 GMT
Great posts here.
Personally, I prefer not to "act out" when I feel anger, because that could develop into a habit and I might find myself unable to control if I allow myself to act. I do believe it has to be let out. I usually cry angry tears and if a good friend doesn't mind it too much, I pour out my woes. I'd feel much better, and try to do whatever I can to remedy the situation.
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Anger
Nov 8, 2018 23:25:54 GMT
Post by boomerang on Nov 8, 2018 23:25:54 GMT
I was so hurt and angry by the end with my DA/FA, that when I finally ran into him unexpectedly two months later, I literally could not speak or smile when he said hello. It surprised me.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 9, 2018 6:56:38 GMT
Great posts here. Personally, I prefer not to "act out" when I feel anger, because that could develop into a habit and I might find myself unable to control if I allow myself to act. I do believe it has to be let out. I usually cry angry tears and if a good friend doesn't mind it too much, I pour out my woes. I'd feel much better, and try to do whatever I can to remedy the situation. It is unlikely to become a habit, because you are aware. When you first change the habit, the pendulum may swing too high but it will calm down with more experience and as you learn and grow. One of the best ways is to calmly declare your feelings to the other - because if you don't express in some way, you are not indicating to the other that they are out of line - and expressing the actual anger elsewhere. This doesn't apply to circumstances where it is unsafe to do so, which is where you may be better to detach from that person quietly. Learning to be authentic and express yourself is actually the way to move forward - because then you are able to build towards healthily getting your needs met in relationships. If you don't express it, you are continuing the old patterns. |
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