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Post by tnr9 on Nov 5, 2018 1:45:23 GMT
I took Friday off and although it was not planned...B came over because he had a doctor's appt that kept getting pushed out that day. So when he arrived....I asked if he would help me with a few things around my place, which he did....he even went shopping with me for a new toilet seat and it felt OK....very friendly but with no weirdness. After his appt, he came back here because it was pouring...so we ordered dinner and watched some movies....and this is what I feel was the victory....whenever we hugged...I pulled away first...I made sure we sat on different couches and I made sure we did not cross any physical lines (even though I so wanted to). It felt empowering to put a boundary up and stick with it and I think he appreciated it as well. Of course the last couple of days I have been mulling over things he said and I thought for a moment that he was ignoring me because I sent him a picture I took while we were shopping with a funny caption and he did not respond for 3 hours...but he just responded....so all is good.  . |
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Post by lilyg on Nov 5, 2018 9:23:07 GMT
It is progress! With calmness we can think with more clarity and act in more honest ways with ourselves. Just please don't do these things thinking that's what B wants and do it because you're refraiming your connection with him.
Take a lot of care, honey. You are going to make it, you've been progressing a lot!
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Post by tnr9 on Nov 5, 2018 12:25:56 GMT
It is progress! With calmness we can think with more clarity and act in more honest ways with ourselves. Just please don't do these things thinking that's what B wants and do it because you're refraiming your connection with him. Take a lot of care, honey. You are going to make it, you've been progressing a lot! That is the struggle still...not going to deny that....but the reframing is helping. |
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Post by lilyg on Nov 5, 2018 13:39:34 GMT
It is progress! With calmness we can think with more clarity and act in more honest ways with ourselves. Just please don't do these things thinking that's what B wants and do it because you're refraiming your connection with him. Take a lot of care, honey. You are going to make it, you've been progressing a lot! That is the struggle still...not going to deny that....but the reframing is helping. It's good that you are aware. Little by little, I'm sure you'll continue gaining perspective and strenght to do what's best for yourself |
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