so thankful for my previous relationship
Nov 12, 2018 0:31:30 GMT
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Post by Deleted on Nov 12, 2018 0:31:30 GMT
i'm having a pretty emotional day.
it's good stuff, just kind of poignant.
my previous partner called today and we caught up about his near fatal motorcycle accident.
he's healing well. we remain on mutually understanding and friendly terms. he knows i have moved on to another relationship although we don't talk about that directly other than when i first let him know out of care and respect. we share the same social circle and i didn't want him to hear it from others who know, i wanted to disclose it privately with him. he was appreciative and supportive of that although he had some sadness too.
he's also DA so it's not devastating as it might be for other types. all in all, this went as well as any relationship ending could and i'm thankful for the care and deep respect that remains mutual.
My relationship with him was rich and fruitful. i was here on the forum posting about my process with him for much of it, i grew so much in emotional availability, authenticity, and peace. He gave me a safe space, the first i've ever encountered in my life in an intimate relationship, to become a better and healthier version of myself. he grew too! it turns out he wasn't my big picture guy and we both knew and accepted that. But our relationship taught us both a lot of good things, there was healing in it for both of us. it's good. it's really good.
so i expresses all that to him, and he was right on the same page with me. we both know and are happy that our experience gave me a place to launch from into where i am now, and i am very happy. he's genuinely happy for me. his heart and generosity is such an amazing thing to me.
i came from a very very dark history, i was so shut down and guarded when we met. so was he. but i was more out of touch with myself, for sure. i couldn't have come this far without him. i will always have a huge space in my heart for him and told him so. but it isn't like a phantom ex thing , not at all. i've found a relationship that checks all my boxes so far and then some. but i know where i came from and who helped me along the way. i'm just so grateful. and he gets it, he gets me, and this isn't wrenching or awkward for us. he is on his own journey and appreciates that i could love him and let him figure that out without hate, misunderstanding, and blame. it's pure. our ending was pure and supported the wellness of both of us, on our individual life paths.
so, it was good to talk to him about that today.
i feel emotional but in a good way.
it may sound strange to someone on the outside, all of it, i don't know. but for what it all was and came to be, it was beautiful.
this forum has changed my life, and the support i have gotten here has helped me heal. attachment understanding has been a miracle. meeting other dismissives here and relating our stories and struggles and triumphs has been a miracle. and it all helped him too,
helped him with some pieces of his puzzle.
ah, bittersweet things. just reflecting.
it's good stuff, just kind of poignant.
my previous partner called today and we caught up about his near fatal motorcycle accident.
he's healing well. we remain on mutually understanding and friendly terms. he knows i have moved on to another relationship although we don't talk about that directly other than when i first let him know out of care and respect. we share the same social circle and i didn't want him to hear it from others who know, i wanted to disclose it privately with him. he was appreciative and supportive of that although he had some sadness too.
he's also DA so it's not devastating as it might be for other types. all in all, this went as well as any relationship ending could and i'm thankful for the care and deep respect that remains mutual.
My relationship with him was rich and fruitful. i was here on the forum posting about my process with him for much of it, i grew so much in emotional availability, authenticity, and peace. He gave me a safe space, the first i've ever encountered in my life in an intimate relationship, to become a better and healthier version of myself. he grew too! it turns out he wasn't my big picture guy and we both knew and accepted that. But our relationship taught us both a lot of good things, there was healing in it for both of us. it's good. it's really good.
so i expresses all that to him, and he was right on the same page with me. we both know and are happy that our experience gave me a place to launch from into where i am now, and i am very happy. he's genuinely happy for me. his heart and generosity is such an amazing thing to me.
i came from a very very dark history, i was so shut down and guarded when we met. so was he. but i was more out of touch with myself, for sure. i couldn't have come this far without him. i will always have a huge space in my heart for him and told him so. but it isn't like a phantom ex thing , not at all. i've found a relationship that checks all my boxes so far and then some. but i know where i came from and who helped me along the way. i'm just so grateful. and he gets it, he gets me, and this isn't wrenching or awkward for us. he is on his own journey and appreciates that i could love him and let him figure that out without hate, misunderstanding, and blame. it's pure. our ending was pure and supported the wellness of both of us, on our individual life paths.
so, it was good to talk to him about that today.
i feel emotional but in a good way.
it may sound strange to someone on the outside, all of it, i don't know. but for what it all was and came to be, it was beautiful.
this forum has changed my life, and the support i have gotten here has helped me heal. attachment understanding has been a miracle. meeting other dismissives here and relating our stories and struggles and triumphs has been a miracle. and it all helped him too,
helped him with some pieces of his puzzle.
ah, bittersweet things. just reflecting.
