Fearful Avoidants the hardest to reconcile/work with?

As a FA I feel the complete opposite of a narcissist. I do not have a grandiose self image, I do not impose myself into people's lives with force, I do not try to control others, I feel high levels of sensitivity and emotions, in the same way an anxious P person does. I do not gaslight, lie or cheat or feel above the law, the opposite in fact. Sure, some avoidants may have some of these traits, but ancious and secure people do as well.

It's like me saying because APs don't always feel in control of their emotions and sometimes get hysterical that they must all suffer from BPD and must be avoided at all costs. A terrible thing to say. I know lots of people have been hurt by avoidants in the past, and it's sad and tragic, but the amount of comments I've read on other websites (that are far less in tune thab the lovely knowledgeable people on this board) saying stuff like Fa's are all narcs or evil or selfish or don't deserve love is just plain mean and upsetting to read. People think we don't feel emotions. That's the problem, we do! As much as an AP does. And it scares us. I've dealt with an NPD before and his way of acting and thinking is so at odds with mine that I see very little crossover apart from the fact that we are both bad relationship material. That's where the similarities end in my opinion. Peace and love