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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2018 12:04:27 GMT
this is... interesting. I've always been a sharer - i make sure that the people i consider important in my life know everything that is important to me. to me, the more important you are, the more you will know. if you're most precious to me, you're also the first person i want to share things with. sometimes with my best friend, life is a running commentary that is updated almost in real time (if not in real time). there's projection and assumption here, on my part, that other people would be the same. over time, i realize that even my friends aren't like that, and i learn how to pull back and not tell them anything much. truth be told, it hurts somewhat because i feel like my friends don't really care about me deeply, but i also see that they're still there and that if i really need them, they'll pull through for me.
PS: i self identified as insecure, leaning towards AP. DA with certain people.
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Post by tnr9 on Dec 19, 2018 12:15:41 GMT
this is... interesting. I've always been a sharer - i make sure that the people i consider important in my life know everything that is important to me. to me, the more important you are, the more you will know. if you're most precious to me, you're also the first person i want to share things with. sometimes with my best friend, life is a running commentary that is updated almost in real time (if not in real time). there's projection and assumption here, on my part, that other people would be the same. over time, i realize that even my friends aren't like that, and i learn how to pull back and not tell them anything much. truth be told, it hurts somewhat because i feel like my friends don't really care about me deeply, but i also see that they're still there and that if i really need them, they'll pull through for me. PS: i self identified as insecure, leaning towards AP. DA with certain people. I have the same leanings....I am very transparant/over communicator/sharer and have a very skewed perspective on silence. It would drive me batty when B would tell me last minute about an event...and I too would take it personally...but I never told him it made me feel not important to him. I knew that was my interpretation and there were plenty of other gestures etc pointing to him caring...plus, he has some additional challenges that help explain why he doesn't communicate as I do. Believe me...daily I fight against very understandable but irrational and somewhat paranoid stories regarding B. |
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