Post by inactivevulc on Dec 23, 2018 3:57:48 GMT
Dated this guy for a year and a bit. Slowly melted him and myself (I think I'm FA as well and moved into AP), during a moment of high stress I panicked and got needy, got dumped.
I keep chasing him because I can't understand how he could give up on us and on his 'promises'/words so easily. I had told him I don't trust people easily and he asked me to lower my barriers for him, the more I did so, the more vulnerable I got.
After the breakup, I got heavily depressed / anxious due to the heartbreak. I still 'neeed'/'want' him as he is/was the love of my life.
Communicating with him is painful for me at the moment, because all I wish to do is beg for his arms and warmth again. I know it isn't healthy or a happy attitude but I am never been happier than with him.
I know it isn't possible to save a relationship unilaterally but I feel willing to contorn myself and reduce my needs just to have a chance to make it work.
It's pathetic to some extend I guess. I have read other threads and it seems that DA/FA mostly don't come back and it is properly scary.
I keep chasing him because I can't understand how he could give up on us and on his 'promises'/words so easily. I had told him I don't trust people easily and he asked me to lower my barriers for him, the more I did so, the more vulnerable I got.
After the breakup, I got heavily depressed / anxious due to the heartbreak. I still 'neeed'/'want' him as he is/was the love of my life.
Communicating with him is painful for me at the moment, because all I wish to do is beg for his arms and warmth again. I know it isn't healthy or a happy attitude but I am never been happier than with him.
I know it isn't possible to save a relationship unilaterally but I feel willing to contorn myself and reduce my needs just to have a chance to make it work.
It's pathetic to some extend I guess. I have read other threads and it seems that DA/FA mostly don't come back and it is properly scary.