Post by writerguy on Jan 12, 2019 3:48:14 GMT
Hello all - I haven't been on in a while because I've been doing well, taking care of myself, working hard, and doing - generally - great. Some of you know my story - I was with my FA ex fiance off-and-on for 15 years. She cheated on my twice and after the last time I broke up with her in September of 18. I was very strong and did lots of positive work. I didn't contact her at all. She got in touch with me during the wildfires near my home here in California in November. We emailed back-and-forth briefly and then she disappeared again. I have moved back to being my more secure self (I had become rather anxious during the last few years of our relationship...no surprise there.) I'm been focused on myself and it's been really fun, actually.
She just emailed me again yesterday. We had a brief email back and forth of the "hi, how are you variety" though I must say her negative demeanor about the world in general was really obvious to me. I had thought that I'd try to be mature and contemplated if we could be acquaintances of the "see you every few months variety" but now after this brief exchange I'm not so sure. I'm sort of done doing the email/text exchange without ever meeting someone in person and I think she's just comfortable knowing I'm here and will still respond and act like a human to her (I finally learned though her last email to me that she now has claustrophobia - news to me - and it makes her afraid to fly.) Her primary means of communication is email...because, well, avoidant.
My question is this: I've made tons of progress, I'm feeling really strong and continuing my therapy and mindset work, I'm dating someone new who I really like, and I think I may be deluding myself that I can be friends with my ex despite our history. Should I answer her last email - or any future emails - or just let it go? Thanks in advance for any of your thoughts and Happy New Year to all!
She just emailed me again yesterday. We had a brief email back and forth of the "hi, how are you variety" though I must say her negative demeanor about the world in general was really obvious to me. I had thought that I'd try to be mature and contemplated if we could be acquaintances of the "see you every few months variety" but now after this brief exchange I'm not so sure. I'm sort of done doing the email/text exchange without ever meeting someone in person and I think she's just comfortable knowing I'm here and will still respond and act like a human to her (I finally learned though her last email to me that she now has claustrophobia - news to me - and it makes her afraid to fly.) Her primary means of communication is email...because, well, avoidant.
My question is this: I've made tons of progress, I'm feeling really strong and continuing my therapy and mindset work, I'm dating someone new who I really like, and I think I may be deluding myself that I can be friends with my ex despite our history. Should I answer her last email - or any future emails - or just let it go? Thanks in advance for any of your thoughts and Happy New Year to all!
