All my life I was a very avoidant person even towards people that I like. When I recognize that someone like me more than I do like them, I get uncomfortable and distant. When I like someone who’s not interested in me, I also get distant as a defense mechanism to a possible reaction. When I like someone and they like me too I feel great but still periodically get distant.
Until I started liking him.
At first I was distant and uninterested towards him. But as I get to know him I recognized I am slowly taking my guard down. I thought he was thoughtful and loving, he wasn’t chasing me like crazy but he was giving me very sweet hints of appreciating me. As time past he started acting super anxious around me and avoiding me.
Then I did something I would never do and told him I have feelings for him. And he told me he has too.
He oddly started acting distant and continued being anxious around me. But I was warm, confident, initiating. He started avoiding me more and I told him he’s being rude and making me sad. He apologized and I accepted his apology but he’s not talking to me for a MONTH since then. I didn’t talk to him either.
Do you have similar experiences? Why is he acting like that?