Post by stayhappy on Jan 24, 2019 17:54:45 GMT
Hi!
I think is kind of impossible to be 100% secure but I do think secure people deal with anxiety in a different way. Dismissives usuallys says they don’t feel anxiety, although some articles says they do have anxiety, the stress hormones is also on their body but they kind of suppress it and that’s why they have to deactivate.
I’m not even sure if sometimes I react because I’m irritated or feeling anxious. I like things to be clear in a relationship and if at some point my partner break a deal I can get really upset and I will fight about it until I get tired. But I’m never really afraid of loosing my partner at this moments.
When I was younger sometimes I could choose to shut down instead of telling what was making me upset but it’s not the way I choose to react anymore. I think because I would probably shut down for maybe some hours, max some days and would probably explode later so better to communicate from the start. I don’t “deactivate” by fear of intimacy or engulfment. Maybe I was thinking that I would get more calm if I ignored the problem for while but nope.
I’m not a person who is afraid to lose a partner, not if I don’t have reasons for that. The conflicts I had on mine relationships rarely made me afraid but those conflicts could still make me really upset sometimes.
How do you fee/react while triggered in relationships?
I think is kind of impossible to be 100% secure but I do think secure people deal with anxiety in a different way. Dismissives usuallys says they don’t feel anxiety, although some articles says they do have anxiety, the stress hormones is also on their body but they kind of suppress it and that’s why they have to deactivate.
I’m not even sure if sometimes I react because I’m irritated or feeling anxious. I like things to be clear in a relationship and if at some point my partner break a deal I can get really upset and I will fight about it until I get tired. But I’m never really afraid of loosing my partner at this moments.
When I was younger sometimes I could choose to shut down instead of telling what was making me upset but it’s not the way I choose to react anymore. I think because I would probably shut down for maybe some hours, max some days and would probably explode later so better to communicate from the start. I don’t “deactivate” by fear of intimacy or engulfment. Maybe I was thinking that I would get more calm if I ignored the problem for while but nope.
I’m not a person who is afraid to lose a partner, not if I don’t have reasons for that. The conflicts I had on mine relationships rarely made me afraid but those conflicts could still make me really upset sometimes.
How do you fee/react while triggered in relationships?