Post by howpredictable on May 30, 2017 1:19:33 GMT
Kdogg,
I am sorry for what you are going through. But to be honest when reading your post, and recognizing that the relationship was less than 3 months old when it suddenly ended, my first thought was that this might have merely been a relationship that wasn't meant to get off the ground. Not necessarily because he's Avoidant (though, who knows?) but merely because many relationships just aren't meant to be and the 3-month point is often when the incompatibility between couples starts to show.
The "slow fade" -- while not a commendable way to end things -- is something that people seem increasingly to do these days, rather than have a frank discussion with the other person about how they are simply not "feeling it" enough to continue the connection. Also the total break-off with communication is also common, since people don't like confrontation and they don't like to engage in emotionally messy post-break-up discussions if they can avoid it.
So I think that rather than try to hang this outcome on his being Avoidant, it may just be a lack of compatibility, poor timing (see: busy with work, graduation, etc), lack of attraction, whatever.
Hope you get through it okay. Disappointment is hard at the best of times.
I am sorry for what you are going through. But to be honest when reading your post, and recognizing that the relationship was less than 3 months old when it suddenly ended, my first thought was that this might have merely been a relationship that wasn't meant to get off the ground. Not necessarily because he's Avoidant (though, who knows?) but merely because many relationships just aren't meant to be and the 3-month point is often when the incompatibility between couples starts to show.
The "slow fade" -- while not a commendable way to end things -- is something that people seem increasingly to do these days, rather than have a frank discussion with the other person about how they are simply not "feeling it" enough to continue the connection. Also the total break-off with communication is also common, since people don't like confrontation and they don't like to engage in emotionally messy post-break-up discussions if they can avoid it.
So I think that rather than try to hang this outcome on his being Avoidant, it may just be a lack of compatibility, poor timing (see: busy with work, graduation, etc), lack of attraction, whatever.
Hope you get through it okay. Disappointment is hard at the best of times.