Post by sissyk on Mar 14, 2019 0:14:44 GMT
"He confessed he has emotional blocks on his feelings, fears of commitment and trouble even accessing his feelings; much less actually speaking to me about them. "
Just my 2 cents--it may be that he can not do feelings and emotions and empathy well--not that he will not. Google alexithymia. He may be trying but have cerain emotional limitations that he is trying to cover up with coping measures like ignoring your requests.
This doesn't change what you need and what he can offer as your bottom line.
The avoidant categories are extremely helpful, but they are not always the whole story. Once you put the attachment style glasses on, the world looks a certain way. But people are pretty complex.
Just my 2 cents--it may be that he can not do feelings and emotions and empathy well--not that he will not. Google alexithymia. He may be trying but have cerain emotional limitations that he is trying to cover up with coping measures like ignoring your requests.
This doesn't change what you need and what he can offer as your bottom line.
The avoidant categories are extremely helpful, but they are not always the whole story. Once you put the attachment style glasses on, the world looks a certain way. But people are pretty complex.