Can two Fearfuls ever get together?

I do get that, I am a FA and I have been triggered by the avoidance of a FA/DA who I loved very much.

Maybe APS come on a spectrum, too. I have experienced these angry outbursts and proclamations of love after having met someone only two times. I kind of get wary because it makes me think if someone is like that already that early on, who will he be later in a relationship? Call me names or hit me if things don't go his way?
The manipulations and violent outbursts is just something that make me feel unsafe and makes it hard for me to trust them. My mother is AP-like sometimes as well and only after having read here I understood that her threatening to never see me again and saying hurtful things in anger is protest behavior. Before, that behavior combined with claiming to not feel like I trust her enough to tell her private things and wanting to feel closer was extremely puzzling to me and made no sense at all.

I'm not sure if APs hurt the most... DAs might be kind of numb but FAs feel everything that APs feel but retract instead of push forward. It's a very very lonely life without love and without intimacy and that's why they keep on trying again. I feel like APs can eventually succeed because they can keep on trying and because they can learn to keep their outbursts in check.