Post by gaynxious on Jun 15, 2017 6:46:08 GMT
I've been curious about how attachment styles can play out in familia relationships.
I've read about how they can affect non-romantic relationships such as friends but my own experience leads me to believe family relationships may be heavily influenced.
I was anxiously attached to my mother as early as I can remember. My feelings for her at a young age could be compared to that of the aztecs to the sun, I literally felt all light and joy in the world spring from her. Either I have a biological predisposition to anxious attachement or her postpardom depression and my dad's emotional limits cause me to feel insecure early on.
After my mother died I feel the anxious avoidant dynamic defiently describes my father's and my relationship. While we didn't have the aspects of ending the relationship or threatening to, then reconciling or the flood of positive memories I would have with my ex, there was definitely a lot of miscommunication and fights and insults that were more about unmet emotional needs than the actual issues presented.
I am particularly interested because right now I feel like I am in an anxious avoidant dynamic with my grandmother where I am the avoidant, and to some extent I see this between my dad and my grandmother. My grandmother is most certainly an anxious, to an extreme even greater than myself.
Does anyone have any insight and is there any findings on this matter?
I've read about how they can affect non-romantic relationships such as friends but my own experience leads me to believe family relationships may be heavily influenced.
I was anxiously attached to my mother as early as I can remember. My feelings for her at a young age could be compared to that of the aztecs to the sun, I literally felt all light and joy in the world spring from her. Either I have a biological predisposition to anxious attachement or her postpardom depression and my dad's emotional limits cause me to feel insecure early on.
After my mother died I feel the anxious avoidant dynamic defiently describes my father's and my relationship. While we didn't have the aspects of ending the relationship or threatening to, then reconciling or the flood of positive memories I would have with my ex, there was definitely a lot of miscommunication and fights and insults that were more about unmet emotional needs than the actual issues presented.
I am particularly interested because right now I feel like I am in an anxious avoidant dynamic with my grandmother where I am the avoidant, and to some extent I see this between my dad and my grandmother. My grandmother is most certainly an anxious, to an extreme even greater than myself.
Does anyone have any insight and is there any findings on this matter?