Post by stuckinamoment on May 30, 2019 16:00:13 GMT
i wasn't sure where to post this.
my ex dumped it on me about his ex that he called his ghost the nite he called me by the wrong name as we were kissing , he the told me there was no L name but a J. i was stunned and so hurt because i didn't feel that that moment i even needed to know. i saw his name in his phone before when he showed me his phone and also when it flashed on his car screen. i assumed it was a colleague , i paid no mind to it as we weren't official really.
that nite he said in talking to me he knew what he needed to do and meet with her and ask for closure as he felt like a yo-yo and she keeps pulling him back in with texts and calls.
she is the reason he doesn't call people because she has him trained for five years .
he went onto explain that it was a very good two year relationship but she left and went back with her husband because her family forced her too.
for three months he hid this from me. the staff where we met knew of her.
i thought at the time he was in a situation similar to what i went thru in my twenties, i now know i was wrong.
when he finally cut me off he again said he felt guilty and that anything physical makes him feel bad about himself.
i was stunned as when we were together he was happy and all over me.
he also said he didn't have the emotional depth or bandwidth and his life is complicated
in a sense i was cut off for his ghost basically.
the last time i ran into him he made note of our conversation and said u know where i'm at, and i said yes but i didn't think that would mean we can't be friends.
he again mentioned no bandwidth and dealing with family issues and other stuff, the other stuff i assume is the ghost.
i haven't seen it posted where the avoidant feels guilt and like they are cheating on the ghost
i started to assume he was living with someone and that really fueled him cutting me off. he said it sux for both of us, when i said we had lots of fun and chemistry .
he barely speaks to her but waits for texts and calls and he admits gets nothing out of it but hope for what once was
he said he would reach out and hasn't and ignored my one text after six weeks since i saw him and two months since we went out.
i never asked for a relationship and really miss our friendship and his support for him to ignore me hurts
he's totally changed
has anyone had an avoidant this hung up on their x?
my ex dumped it on me about his ex that he called his ghost the nite he called me by the wrong name as we were kissing , he the told me there was no L name but a J. i was stunned and so hurt because i didn't feel that that moment i even needed to know. i saw his name in his phone before when he showed me his phone and also when it flashed on his car screen. i assumed it was a colleague , i paid no mind to it as we weren't official really.
that nite he said in talking to me he knew what he needed to do and meet with her and ask for closure as he felt like a yo-yo and she keeps pulling him back in with texts and calls.
she is the reason he doesn't call people because she has him trained for five years .
he went onto explain that it was a very good two year relationship but she left and went back with her husband because her family forced her too.
for three months he hid this from me. the staff where we met knew of her.
i thought at the time he was in a situation similar to what i went thru in my twenties, i now know i was wrong.
when he finally cut me off he again said he felt guilty and that anything physical makes him feel bad about himself.
i was stunned as when we were together he was happy and all over me.
he also said he didn't have the emotional depth or bandwidth and his life is complicated
in a sense i was cut off for his ghost basically.
the last time i ran into him he made note of our conversation and said u know where i'm at, and i said yes but i didn't think that would mean we can't be friends.
he again mentioned no bandwidth and dealing with family issues and other stuff, the other stuff i assume is the ghost.
i haven't seen it posted where the avoidant feels guilt and like they are cheating on the ghost
i started to assume he was living with someone and that really fueled him cutting me off. he said it sux for both of us, when i said we had lots of fun and chemistry .
he barely speaks to her but waits for texts and calls and he admits gets nothing out of it but hope for what once was
he said he would reach out and hasn't and ignored my one text after six weeks since i saw him and two months since we went out.
i never asked for a relationship and really miss our friendship and his support for him to ignore me hurts
he's totally changed
has anyone had an avoidant this hung up on their x?
