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Post by hannah99 on Jul 6, 2019 18:45:02 GMT
My ex left me for another woman who he had been friends with for many, many years.
I was never really worried about her until she started to become overly dependent on him and message him constantly.
During our four years together we broke up three times, each time seemingly when things were good or we had just made a commitment. Each time he begged for forgiveness and came back.
During one of these breakups she made strong hints about her feelings for him but he choose to come back to me.
Now I'm worried that what I thought was FA was just a simple case of being in love with someone else.
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Post by slowlybutsurely on Jul 6, 2019 20:02:52 GMT
My ex left me for another woman who he had been friends with for many, many years. I was never really worried about her until she started to become overly dependent on him and message him constantly. During our four years together we broke up three times, each time seemingly when things were good or we had just made a commitment. Each time he begged for forgiveness and came back. During one of these breakups she made strong hints about her feelings for him but he choose to come back to me. Now I'm worried that what I thought was FA was just a simple case of being in love with someone else. Firstly, I'm sorry you are feeling heartbreak right now. There is no pain quite like it in life, and I'm sorry you have to bear witness to that at this moment. I encourage you to lean into all the feelings, hang out with friends, and get mad about it. Secondly, there's truly just no way to know. As Dan Savage says, every relationship fails until one doesn't. What you do deserve is to find someone who doesn't sway on their feelings for you, and wants to be all in because they know you are worth it. Irregardless of their attachment style, your ex sounds like they were not fully honest with your (or maybe even themselves) about their feelings for you and for this other person. I encourage you to grieve, to lean into all the feelings, and then take the time to explore why you stayed and what you need next.  |
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Post by faithopelove on Jul 11, 2019 0:41:14 GMT
My ex left me for another woman who he had been friends with for many, many years. I was never really worried about her until she started to become overly dependent on him and message him constantly. During our four years together we broke up three times, each time seemingly when things were good or we had just made a commitment. Each time he begged for forgiveness and came back. During one of these breakups she made strong hints about her feelings for him but he choose to come back to me. Now I'm worried that what I thought was FA was just a simple case of being in love with someone else. [ hannah99 - I’m so sorry this happened to you. You deserve an honest and faithful partner and you shouldn’t settle for less. It’s heart breaking that he did this but now you can begin the healing process and go onward and upward from here. Also, showing you his true colors, it helps provide clarity for knowing what you definitely do not want! Let him have the other girl- you were spared a dishonest person who couldn’t be trusted and didn’t cherish you. Your heart will eventually heal in time. 💗 |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2019 12:28:27 GMT
Any man who leaves you for another woman - that's not love - period!
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Post by hannah99 on Jul 12, 2019 16:34:07 GMT
I agree he didn't love me in the end. But did he ever?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 12, 2019 16:46:56 GMT
I agree he didn't love me in the end. But did he ever? Only he can answer that! |
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Post by faithopelove on Jul 12, 2019 20:09:52 GMT
I agree he didn't love me in the end. But did he ever? - He probably meant it at the time he said it. Think back to your life and all the things you said in the moment that later turned out to not be true. Feelings constantly change. Look at the divorce rate in America. All the couples who vowed their love to one another to that person and that person only for the rest of their lives. Yet, over half of marriages end in divorce. I don’t think the couples were insincere on their wedding day. I’m sure most had genuine and true feelings when stating their vows. I filed for divorce from my husband 4 years ago. He could also accuse me of lying if going along with your thought process. But I can tell you when I said my wedding vows I did mean them and I thought we’d last forever. Unfortunately, people’s feelings change with let down, disappointment and conflicts. Partners drift from their original feelings and they begin to doubt the relationship being sustainable long term for a thousand reasons that can be very personal to them based on their own baggage. I don’t think we can assume a person didn’t love at the time. So, when a person tells you something, take it with a grain of salt, and in the end know that you can only rely on yourself. |
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