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Post by hannah99 on Jul 22, 2019 6:36:23 GMT
My ex and I broke up many months ago. I'm trying to cut all ties so I can go no contact for my own good but as we lived together and have a dog there's lose ends to tie up.
He is stalling on signing paperwork and giving me information which will help me tie up lose ends. He doesn't reply to my messages and will lie about insignificant things. For example, saying he's emailed the solicitor when he hasn't, lying about what he's doing, etc.
None of this stalling benefits him any way. There's no financial benefit, in fact some of ot releaved him of responsibilities, and he's made it crystal clear he doesn't want any connection to me.
What do I do? He ignores messages and it makes me feel like I'm bugging him and the AP in me keeps telling me I'm the one in the wrong. Why is he being like this? I just want this to be over now.
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2019 13:08:15 GMT
I don't know where you live, but in my country the courts have a protocol for dealing with non compliant or uncooperative parties to a case involving property.
Is there not a way to proceed without his cooperation? As in, publishing a notice of intent for 30 days or whatever the court has determined is due process?
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Post by Deleted on Jul 22, 2019 13:13:08 GMT
Also, if he is narcissistic he could be engaging in this way to receive the fuel from your response. Fuel could be in the form of him knowing that this really is upsetting you, or from actual conversations you have in which you express frustrations. If this is the case, don't react- respond with simple acknowledgement of his non cooperation, with no emotion. Then, take the next logical step for resolving your property issues.
Check yourself to see if you are making this harder than in need be due to your own continued emotional investment. That could happen- where you project your own unwillingness to cut ties onto him. Sure he's being an ass. but there must actually be a way around that. If you can get to a place without emotional thinking in play you might have better success, sooner.
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Post by hannah99 on Jul 22, 2019 14:33:57 GMT
The legal stuff is being taken care of. It's the other bits...I have nothing to hold him to account. For example, he left belongings in my house...I ended up throwing them out. Changing addresses on things, ownership of the dog, etc. My family think he's trying to get a response from me.
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