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If you're ex was indeed an avoidant of some sort then it's not surprising ... many of them don't understand sentiment or even understand how to value it. I hate to say this but one way I've heard it described is that they are "emotionally retarded people" in comparison to most that can and have attached to people thus finding value in others. Avoidants became conditioned to only worry about their needs and how to handle things their way because somewhere along the line their parents failed them. I had an avoidant ex that also didn't put up pics because to her that reminded her that she had to submit to being in a committed relationship and she didn't like that because somehow in her avoidant perspective that was like giving up control and power... when I asked to elaborate she said she didn't even know how to make sense of it, that it's just emotions that happened. I guess in many ways you have to feel sorry for people like that, unless they get help they will most likely never lead fulfilling lives as they wouldn't even know how to if they tried :-(

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How have I learnt those things?