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Post by 8675309 on Aug 21, 2019 0:54:35 GMT
Trust, mail his stuff back now, clean him out. I had a friend go through this recently and she regretted just not purging him sooner like I told her to, she was just triggered right now holding on. We have had very open talks on attachment. I told her this will help moving on. She held on and later it punched her with pain again all over again. She said I so should of listened to you! haha. Shes Secure with an anxious side. And me personally, I would surely purged him. Its how I start moving on as a secure. The quicker I purge the better. I mean, move on how You need to but just noting from experience.  |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2019 2:23:48 GMT
Trust, mail his stuff back now, clean him out. I had a friend go through this recently and she regretted just not purging him sooner like I told her to, she was just triggered right now holding on. We have had very open talks on attachment. I told her this will help moving on. She held on and later it punched her with pain again all over again. She said I so should of listened to you! haha. Shes Secure with an anxious side. And me personally, I would surely purged him. Its how I start moving on as a secure. The quicker I purge the better. I mean, move on how You need to but just noting from experience. Hell yes, Purge. Don't act in habit. Don't cave to the feelings- it's like removing a corpse, get it out NOW. Also, I know you truly have to do this how you see fit, just seconding this advice. I know it won't go over so well from an avoidant- but a secure said it too lol. Close the door! |
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Post by kisstheviolets on Aug 21, 2019 22:51:38 GMT
No no, I will do whatever y’all tell me to do honestly! Haha
I will do it this weekend and I will have someone log into my FB and do the block. I KNOW deep down I have avoided doing it because it is a way to cling on to hope!
My anxiety has eased immensely. I do get a little frustrated that I feel I should be further along. He is in my thoughts still constantly. I have no desire to message or drive by his house. I am still peeking at his Facebook everyday.
What if this takes years? Sometimes I feel like I just can’t take another second if it. Promise it ends? Right?
You guys are the best
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Post by serenity on Aug 21, 2019 23:24:27 GMT
Is it okay to have a burning ritual or that not okay? (lol)
Ugg social media sucks. Yes you do stop facebook stalking, but it helps tons if you are disciplined about it. Sorry its so hard violets . hang in there!
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