Post by kisstheviolets on Aug 21, 2019 22:59:25 GMT
Doing some hard self work in therapy. Wow. Just wow.
It seems as though I present FA mainly in my relationships with other women and not typically in relationships with men.
This has been a game changer for me and makes so much sense. My female friendships are so important but to be honest I’m a flake! It makes me so uncomfortable and I’ve ruined friendships over the years and I never understood WHY!!!! I also have similar feelings of dread when I am close to my niece and mother. Of course I yearn to closer when I’m not around them and I’m soooo uncomfortable being close to them.
Ive definitely flaked out of some female relationships, but mostly the ones I didn't care for. The ones that really mattered have stuck around through thick and thin. As a FA and often from long distance, the relationships survived thank God.
I believe my ex best friend is FA, possible DA, not sure. She flakes a lot...went months with no contact, often didn’t respond to texts/calls and would evade bids for catching up. I eventually have had to end the friendship as it was devaluing for me having someone blow me off all the time.i do understand it though, it must be very painful feeling like you have to keep people at a distance at times