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gingerpig
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Finished with my DA Jul 12, 2017 9:51:00 GMT via mobile

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Post by gingerpig on Jul 12, 2017 9:51:00 GMT

So I'm just curious as to the likely behaviour patterns of a DA after being finished with.. I was seeing a guy for a short while, clearly avoidant and struggled with any sort of closeness and communication other than sex. Right from the beginning he displayed very avoidant behaviours which gave me a bit of a shock and triggered my anxiety.

I've since got a hold of myself and decided it's not for me - it made me too anxious and i found it eroded my self esteem. So I ended it by text which he didn't repond to but read it.

What's the process now for a DA once you've ended it - potentially before they are 'ready' to?

pooched
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Finished with my DA Jul 16, 2017 12:10:20 GMT

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Post by pooched on Jul 16, 2017 12:10:20 GMT

I dumped my DA after 1.5 years due to non-communication and ghosting, I didn't understand his behaviours and haven't heard of Attachment theory before, I thought he was a Narc. I'm an AP. Ten months later, he contacted me and tried to woo me back... we have had a good 2.5 years since (he was on better behaviour, showing me scraps of affection), but a couple of months ago, bad behaviour (ghosting) started again and two weeks ago, we had a discussion and words were said.

I think that they do try and if they do miss you, or their ego can't take the dump, for them they have to control you and will call again. This may be a push-pull cycle. Stand firm on your decision and move on.

Last Edit: Aug 4, 2017 14:40:18 GMT by pooched

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