How to best phrase "Did I Upset You?"

He did not throw you out like trash, and you did not do anything wrong. Don't be too hard on yourself, you are doing the best you can and are in a very tough spot. The reason he isn't talking to you is because he isn't in a healthy place mentally and emotionally and therefore not in the right frame of mind to sort out anything besides himself. It's a situation where we can just let go, and if things are meant to be they will be. But giving them the space and being on their own to figure things out and work on themselves if that's what they need is vital. Not only to them, but ourselves as well. Because you and me both hate getting dragged through the mud when we invest so much into someone who isn't in a place to be able to reciprocate in the same way, and cannot , or will not meet our basic needs. For yourself with this time apart it can be helpful to really map out what you want for yourself and what you are okay with and not, for a relationship or any other connection in your life.

You have a big heart and a lot of empathy and try hard to help someone who is having an insormontable amount of difficulty, which is extremely admirable. In my situation I am doing similar. But the thing is even when we are doing this , if we take it upon ourselves to do it . We have to also drop all of our expectations or fear around everything too. Just being a centered and grounded presence in someone's life that shows them stability and peace through example. I tried/try to do that myself too but sometimes it's too much to take on. Especially when they still do things to actively push you away by hurting your emotions further. To me it feels like willfully walking into thorn bushes to help the vulnerable and scared person on the inside. But those Barb's can be really sharp and it can be hard burden to take on.