Post by caro on Sept 20, 2019 18:14:25 GMT
I don't have a specific question — but wanted to kick off a discussion about when FAs circle back and people's experiences or FAs thoughts reconnecting to help me understand the other side.
Like:
- As a FA, are you nervous to reconnect because you realize you might have hurt your partner with the ghosting / space / dismissive words / etc?
- As a FA, do you fear rejection?
- As a FA, why did you come back?
- As a FA, do you circle back to one partner at a time, or is there an intermingled circling with multiple partners? (So you deactivate from one, circle to other, and so on)
- As partners, what were those first experiences of them coming back like?
- As partners, how have you felt? Do you feel any weird insecurities or feelings you can't pin point?
- As partners, did you immediately communicate your boundaries/pain or wait for things to settle in?
Things like that. We talk a lot about the deactivation side (as I get that's the most painful for partners and most misunderstood), but wanted to get some insight on the initial circling back elements.
Like:
- As a FA, are you nervous to reconnect because you realize you might have hurt your partner with the ghosting / space / dismissive words / etc?
- As a FA, do you fear rejection?
- As a FA, why did you come back?
- As a FA, do you circle back to one partner at a time, or is there an intermingled circling with multiple partners? (So you deactivate from one, circle to other, and so on)
- As partners, what were those first experiences of them coming back like?
- As partners, how have you felt? Do you feel any weird insecurities or feelings you can't pin point?
- As partners, did you immediately communicate your boundaries/pain or wait for things to settle in?
Things like that. We talk a lot about the deactivation side (as I get that's the most painful for partners and most misunderstood), but wanted to get some insight on the initial circling back elements.