The definition of anxious preoccupied is cruel/not accurate
Jul 20, 2017 22:18:48 GMT
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Post by joe656 on Jul 20, 2017 22:18:48 GMT
Just read the preoccupied attachment posting.
I have read many books on attachment theory, and many other webpages. The main reason for anyone's attachment being stirred up if they're anxious, is when they're in the dance with an avoidant and thatcher'. Any secure attacher is capable of relaxing the anxious attacher because they are not creating a mixed message, Missmatched, need pattern. I found the explanation of a preoccupied attacher to be cruel and actually exaggerating the mechanical inns and outs of what's happening. It is not an interminable situation as many attachment theory thinkers will explain. If people experience extreme trauma in their attachment in childhood, then there is real trauma there and the reason for their exaggerated attachment problems would exist for both Avoidant and a preoccupied attacher. I found this exaggeration of the anxious attacher to be almost intended to provoke. If that was the intention then this is actually a negligent web blog. Within the posting, there was almost an a blame to the explanation and a lack of spiritual awareness on the author. Perhaps the author is an avoidant and is preoccupied with pointing guilt towards an anxious attacher perhaps they are masking their own dismissive qualities.
I have read many books on attachment theory, and many other webpages. The main reason for anyone's attachment being stirred up if they're anxious, is when they're in the dance with an avoidant and thatcher'. Any secure attacher is capable of relaxing the anxious attacher because they are not creating a mixed message, Missmatched, need pattern. I found the explanation of a preoccupied attacher to be cruel and actually exaggerating the mechanical inns and outs of what's happening. It is not an interminable situation as many attachment theory thinkers will explain. If people experience extreme trauma in their attachment in childhood, then there is real trauma there and the reason for their exaggerated attachment problems would exist for both Avoidant and a preoccupied attacher. I found this exaggeration of the anxious attacher to be almost intended to provoke. If that was the intention then this is actually a negligent web blog. Within the posting, there was almost an a blame to the explanation and a lack of spiritual awareness on the author. Perhaps the author is an avoidant and is preoccupied with pointing guilt towards an anxious attacher perhaps they are masking their own dismissive qualities.