Post by fabnewlife1 on Oct 28, 2019 17:52:06 GMT
Hi all ,
I ended my 4 yr relationship around 6 weeks ago and feel much better . I always felt something wasn't right ( body language , lack of intimacy , shutting down etc ) .Our honeymoon period was great for around 9 months but i ended it after a year as i could not make sense of her flakiness and bizzare behaviour ( self sabotage? ) .
She literally begged me to take her back after 2 months .
Prior to myself she had been in a 30 yr relationship and her partner returned from a 2 week holiday in NY and just said " i'm leaving...i don't love you anymore "
This left her with two boys ( one cerebral palsy and one with special needs) at home.
Our second honeymoon period lasted around 6 months when she was the perfect partner...then she went cold again . During this time she had been having counselling but wouldn't let me attend with her. It was always " next time ".
She wouldn't entertain living together for " fear that it might fail ".
Sexually she was selfish but shy .
On one occasion when she was drunk she offered myself and a friend ( whose partner was present ) to a close friend as potential f*** buddies.
When i asked her about this next morning she said she was ashamed of herself and couldn't explain why she had done this .
She only seemed happy to go out in a group at this stage and when we met up she would only kiss on the cheek .
I confronted her about all these things but she would always turn it around .
6 weeks i ended the relationship and thanked her for " an amazing journey" which in truth it has been .
Her reply was " thankyou ..we can still continue this journey as friends "
I replied that i couldn't do that .
Her mother is toxic and cold and her father committed suicide when she was 10 yrs old
There was a lot of fault finding , flirting and also passive agression .
I ended my 4 yr relationship around 6 weeks ago and feel much better . I always felt something wasn't right ( body language , lack of intimacy , shutting down etc ) .Our honeymoon period was great for around 9 months but i ended it after a year as i could not make sense of her flakiness and bizzare behaviour ( self sabotage? ) .
She literally begged me to take her back after 2 months .
Prior to myself she had been in a 30 yr relationship and her partner returned from a 2 week holiday in NY and just said " i'm leaving...i don't love you anymore "
This left her with two boys ( one cerebral palsy and one with special needs) at home.
Our second honeymoon period lasted around 6 months when she was the perfect partner...then she went cold again . During this time she had been having counselling but wouldn't let me attend with her. It was always " next time ".
She wouldn't entertain living together for " fear that it might fail ".
Sexually she was selfish but shy .
On one occasion when she was drunk she offered myself and a friend ( whose partner was present ) to a close friend as potential f*** buddies.
When i asked her about this next morning she said she was ashamed of herself and couldn't explain why she had done this .
She only seemed happy to go out in a group at this stage and when we met up she would only kiss on the cheek .
I confronted her about all these things but she would always turn it around .
6 weeks i ended the relationship and thanked her for " an amazing journey" which in truth it has been .
Her reply was " thankyou ..we can still continue this journey as friends "
I replied that i couldn't do that .
Her mother is toxic and cold and her father committed suicide when she was 10 yrs old
There was a lot of fault finding , flirting and also passive agression .
