How to create safety in a relationship

I like this blog post by the artist Alanis Morissette:
alanis.com/news/how-to-create-safety-in-a-relationship/

Her bullet points are:

• Predictability
• Warmth
• Non-judgment
• Discernment
• Empathy
• Moderation
• Kind but firm boundaries
• Consciousness
• Track-ability
• Validation
• Awareness
• Reliability and accountability
• Attunement
• Presence
• Sensitivity
• Humor
• Integrity
• Wisdom
• Protectiveness
• Social and emotional intelligence and grace (aka good manners)
• A lack of resistance to feeling feelings
• Spaciousness
• Curiosity/gentle inquiry
• Consistency in all the above