Dumped her 2 months ago. Thanked her for an amazing 4 yr journey.. " we can continue the journey as a friendship "....eh ?
Some people want to stay friends with exes, some people have a hard time letting go, some people want to keep that door open. You were with them for 4 years so it makes sense they don't want to just never see or talk to you again. You left an impact and bond with that person.
Yep! I find it really weird to erase someone from my life after sharing so many things and today I don't understand how some people expect their partners to do that, it's not reassuring at all to me to know they are able to just stop talking to you from one day to another. But yeah, usually it take time to build a new relationship with an ex. I'm close to two of m'y exs (and it's better like that than when we were dating) and on good terms/distant friends with some others.
i kept friends only with one ex, and that's because we've known each other since 13. 20 years and we're each other's support and source of entertaining memes, as well as our families already knowing each other. But that said, we're in different countries/cities and we only chat online.
I would just communicate either that you don't want to be friends or that you're going to need some time before you can (or before you can even think about it). Those are both very reasonable things. You can always say, "this break-up has been (or is) hard on me, and I need time to heal before being friends" or "being friends is too much for me to handle and to process this break-up— I'll reach out if I think I can handle it in the future"
Break-ups aren't easy, and anyone who gets mad at you for protecting yourself by not jumping into just friends is being unreasonable IMO.