Post by nyc718 on Nov 30, 2019 14:18:39 GMT
A friend of mine is dealing with healing from a deeply dysfunctional relationship. She has been in deep despair for the past few months, and I have been there in the past so I very much understand.
What I have been trying to help her with is that the anxiety she is feeling is not necessarily about the man she is trying to get over, but rather that the anxiety she is feeling is from unresolved past trauma, and that she is attaching her current situation to that anxiety she is feeling. The body feels anxiety and doesn't know the difference where it's coming from, whether from the past or current unresolved issues.
So my friend, while logically and intellectually fully understanding that the man she was with is not a good partner for her, emotionally she can't stop ruminating over him, their relationship, all the things she would have changed, said, on and on etc. It's a loop she can't get out of. But she found this video which I feel explains a lot of what I have been trying to tell her. I hope it's helpful to anyone here, and I will also post it in Anxious Preoccupied because I feel that's where it will also be helpful.
In short, all a feeling (anxiety) can do is cause a sensation in your body, that's it. It's the thoughts we attach to our feelings that can get us stuck, hopeless, worried, etc. (This is from an Instagram page @bobbyjodearnley)
It is a connection that I had made a little while back, and it has helped me immensely in my own healing and wellness. Once I understood that, it was like I was set free. I hope this video helps explain it better to you. Be well.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4N0UDijV5c
What I have been trying to help her with is that the anxiety she is feeling is not necessarily about the man she is trying to get over, but rather that the anxiety she is feeling is from unresolved past trauma, and that she is attaching her current situation to that anxiety she is feeling. The body feels anxiety and doesn't know the difference where it's coming from, whether from the past or current unresolved issues.
So my friend, while logically and intellectually fully understanding that the man she was with is not a good partner for her, emotionally she can't stop ruminating over him, their relationship, all the things she would have changed, said, on and on etc. It's a loop she can't get out of. But she found this video which I feel explains a lot of what I have been trying to tell her. I hope it's helpful to anyone here, and I will also post it in Anxious Preoccupied because I feel that's where it will also be helpful.
In short, all a feeling (anxiety) can do is cause a sensation in your body, that's it. It's the thoughts we attach to our feelings that can get us stuck, hopeless, worried, etc. (This is from an Instagram page @bobbyjodearnley)
It is a connection that I had made a little while back, and it has helped me immensely in my own healing and wellness. Once I understood that, it was like I was set free. I hope this video helps explain it better to you. Be well.
www.youtube.com/watch?v=D4N0UDijV5c