Post by anne12 on Jun 3, 2021 9:08:55 GMT
Clear your energy field:
This exercise centers you, protects you on the emotionel level and on a energetic level.
it also protects yourself from getting angry or start crying where it's inapropiate when other people are precent.
Use Gris Criscoms color meditation if you are angry or affraid, annoyed ect. of the person/your partner or if you need protection from somebody, who drains your energy. It can be a sweet college but the College keeps talking and drains you
Imagine a cloud of white light/energy over your head
On inhalation imagine the light/the energy flows down from the top of your head through the center of your body
On exhalation, imagine that the light/the energy flows out of SolarPlexsus and over to the other person (the one that is negative, angry, who drains your energy, are in the victim role etc.).
Then notice what happens in your body, your thoughts, your mood....
Does the other person stop talking, moves away, calms down or ?
Its important that you do not have any intention with sending out the light. You sending out the light in order not to letting other people take some of your energi
Our ego sits in our solar plexus. Our voulnarbility sits in our solar plexus.
Post by anne12 on Jun 6, 2021 10:11:16 GMT
Letter to show your doctor, practitioner ect.
I’m sharing this with you to understand me better, and I hope to discuss it further so that
you may be more informed and prepared for the best care. I appreciate you taking the time to read this and get to know me and my needs.
This letter can become part of my file.
I have the innate trait of high sensitivity, scientifically known as sensory processing sensitivity (SPS) or more commonly known as the highly sensitive person (HSP).
About the Trait. This scientifically proven trait, found in about 20% of the population, is equal in gender, and about 70% are introverts and 30% extroverts. It is NOT a diagnosable disorder, but a trait that informs my physical and mental health. Because this is a sensory processing sensitivity, people with this trait can experience overstimulation of the senses. This nervous system overstimulation can impact us in many ways, including our health.
This trait evolved as a survival strategy of the population, so a group of people would take in and process more subtle details. There are distinct brain differences as well that are important to note.
● More activation in the amygdala may trigger the fight/flight/freeze response too often, releasing adrenaline and stress hormones, sometimes being the culprit of emotional reactivity, digestive issues, headaches/migraines, and other chronic conditions.
● More activation in the insula means more conscious awareness (often why HSPs
often benefit the most in psychotherapy and can often feel symptoms before they show up on tests).
● More activation in the brain mirror neuron system means HSPs often fire some of the same neurons as the person they observe, leading to increased empathy and
sometimes increased overload.
Sensitivity to Medications.
HSPs are often more sensitive to medications and can be more impacted by side effects and, therefore, need to consider starting at lower dosages. It may also be necessary to increase or decrease medications more slowly; therefore, please discuss medications thoroughly. If at all possible, it is often better to try more natural, holistic alternatives first.
Without awareness of this trait, there are times those with this trait may experience misdiagnosis of Sensory Processing Disorder, Bipolar, Borderline, ADHD, Anxiety, or Depression. Education of this trait is crucial.
Childhood conditions impact sensitive people more. Research shows us that HSPs suffer more in adverse, unsupported childhoods and thrive more in positive, supportive childhood conditions. Sensitive children who grow up in supportive environments thrive even more than those without the trait, which means supporting parents with sensitive children is imperative.
Common Challenges of HSPs who did not have a supportive childhood include
● Higher Stress Levels
● Low self-esteem (often the result of feeling different and misunderstood).
● Chronic Health Conditions, such as headaches, digestive issues, autoimmune
disorders, adrenal issues, etc.
● Sleep issues
● Depletion, Fatigue
You can support HSPs in your office by having scent-free spaces, dimmer lighting, soft materials on seating, private and quieter areas (no ticking clocks or buzzing sounds).
HSPs often appreciate a gentle and slower approach to procedures and office visits. Having you explain what you are doing before you do it, giving a little extra time to process what you are saying and discussing needs, and gently checking in throughout procedures are all helpful.
Mental Health Support.
HSPs often experience high stress levels trying to live in a world not set up for the sensitive. They tend to be overgivers and often need support to set healthy boundaries and learn to honor and advocate for their own needs. They can have perfectionist tendencies that can lead to high expectations of themselves. It’s essential to help them normalize and validate their experience, and they will benefit significantly from developing more self-compassion.
A hsp coach
Post by anne12 on Jun 6, 2021 14:24:47 GMT
Michael Hassard, a former engineer for NASA, hikes and camps, takes long motorcycle rides, mows his lawn, fixes leaky faucets, and loves football.
He also cries—quite often: Whenever the Battle Hymn of the Republic is played or if the checkout clerk at Wal-Mart says, “God Bless You;” when the country song about the guy who fixes a tire and refuses payment comes on; and once when he donated some winter coats his children had outgrown to a family he knew from church.
“I keep tissues handy at all times,” says the 44-year-old engineer for an oil and gas company, who lives in Houston
Mr. Hassard first noticed he was highly sensitive in his early teens. Singing in his church choir, there were songs that he says he “had a hard time getting through” because they moved him so much. Sometimes friends noticed his tears and asked him what was wrong. His rote response: “Nothing, I’m fine.” Eventually, he learned to curb his emotions by playing the songs over and over again in his spare time.
Sometimes called Sensory Processing Sensitivity, high sensitivity isn't a disorder or a condition but rather an innate, permanent trait. It was first identified in the 1990s by Elaine and Arthur Aron, research psychologists who developed a 27-item scale to assess it. (Take the quiz to find out if you are highly sensitive.) People who are highly sensitive have a deeper depth of cognitive processing, are easily overwhelmed, have bigger emotional responses and notice subtleties more, says Dr. Elaine Aron, who has a clinical practice in Mill Valley, Calif.
The researchers believe that HSPs are more empathic and feel happier when they see their partner happy. “They think more deeply about things,” says Lucy Brown, clinical professor of neurology at Einstein College of Medicine in New York and a researcher on the study.
Experts say that high sensitivity can be found in at least 100 species, including fruit flies, sunfish, dogs, cats and monkeys. In modern times, HSPs make excellent counselors, teachers, artists, pastors and, reporters (or relationship columnists).
The trait has its downsides. HSPs get worn out by too much stimuli. They can become easily hurt or offended. And they have been known to overreact to a situation. “They’re processing information more thoroughly,” says Dr. Arthur Aron, research professor at Stony Brook University in New York and a visiting scholar at the University of California, Berkeley. “So they are more easily overwhelmed.”
Researchers now believe that high sensitivity has a genetic cause. While they haven’t yet identified all the genes involved, research suggests that the serotonin transporter gene—which is involved in the recycling of serotonin, a neurotransmitter in the brain that impacts emotional well-being—plays a role. They also believe that psychological factors—your temperament or personality—have an effect on your level of sensitivity, as does your physiology, specifically how you respond to stress.
HSPs can learn to cope with their feelings and reactions—sometimes even better than others. A study published online in March 2015, by the journal “Personality and Individual Differences,” looks at how 166 girls ages 11 and 12 respond to a school-based mental health program in England. It found that those who were highly sensitive benefited from a 12-week class on reframing their depressive thoughts much more than girls who had an average amount of sensitivity
Only the highly sensitive girls’ depression symptoms also decreased over the subsequent 12 months. “The more sensitive ones were probably more likely to internalize what they’ve learned and apply it,” says Michael Pluess, a senior lecturer at Queen Mary University of London and the lead researcher on the study.
Mr. Hassard admits that sometimes being overly sensitive can cause problems such as “when you can’t hide how much arguing with idiots upsets you.” And he’s sometimes noticed that women he’s dated have become uncomfortable when he is more emotional than they are. “Nobody loves a crybaby,” he says.
Recognize that you experience events differently than your partner, who may not feel as intensely as you do.
Prepare your partner ahead of time that you may need to call a ‘timeout’ during a disagreement if you feel overwhelmed.
Get ample rest, eat healthily, and take downtime to decompress.
Recognize that being highly sensitive is a double-edged sword. Feeling emotions of pain and joy more acutely can be a good thing.
Post by Deleted on Jun 6, 2021 14:28:21 GMT
So, HSP could explain why I respond badly to many prescription medications? I do not tolerate narcotics, or they don't work. I get a histamine rash to numerous narcotics and antibiotics. Thankfully I don't have chronic conditions that require medications.
I'd be curious to know if any HSP's here have had this kind of a dialog with their doctor? I'm pretty hesitant for fear of being seen as crazy. I don't think I could ever deliver a letter like this, probably because of the way that I was treated growing up with this.
I would like to be more comfortable in this world but there is a big block in me about asking for it. I guess right now it's about taking better care of myself.
Post by anne12 on Jun 8, 2021 16:27:36 GMT
Energy medicine exercises
The Three Thumps, the first exercise in The Daily Energy Routine series. The Three Thumps exercise is designed to boost and restore energy, increase strength and vitality, and strengthen the immune system.
For Exercise 1, Three Thumps:
1. Use several fingers or knuckles to tap the spots shown in the pictures. Tap vigorously on each set of spots. Focus on breathing in through your nose and out through your mouth during all the tapping.
2. To locate K-27 points place your fingers on your collarbone and move them inward towards the U-shaped notch at the top of your breastbone. Move your fingers to the bottom of the U and then move down and out about an inch to find the spots. Tap or massage for ten to fifteen seconds.
3. Place the fingers of either or both hands in the center of your sternum at the thymus gland. Tap there for fifteen to twenty seconds with your fingers or your knuckles.
4. Tap the neurolymphatic spleen points, beneath the breasts and down one rib, for fifteen seconds. Alternately, tap the spleen acupuncture points, located on the side of the body about four inches down from the arm pits, for fifteen seconds. If either set is more tender use these points in the future.m.youtube.com/watch?v=kz8WeNjBh1c
For Exercise 2, The Cross Crawl:
l. While standing, seated or lying down, lift your right arm and left leg simultaneously.
2. As you let them down, raise your left arm and right leg.
3. Repeat, this time exaggerating the lift of your leg and the swing of your arm across
the mid-line to the opposite side of your body.
3. If you can, twist so that your elbow touches your opposite knee.
4. Continue this exaggerated march for at least a minute, again breathing deeply in.m.youtube.com/watch?v=XlrnXAO7JJU
The Zip Up is designed to get you feeling whole again, calms you, and helps you feel connected.
For Exercise 8, The Zip Up:
1. Place your hand at the bottom end of the central meridian - at your pubic bone.
2. Take a deep breath in as you move your hands, slowly and deliberately, straight up the center of your body to your lower lip.
3. Continue upward, bringing your hands past your lips and exuberantly raising them into
the sky. Circle your arms back to your pelvis.
4. Repeat three times.
5. Zip up this meridian as often as you like.youtu.be/GhllemDYXo0
The Wayne Cook Posture is designed to help you focus the mind. It allows you to untangle inner chaos, see with better perspective, think more clearly, learn more proficiently,
For Exercise 3, The Wayne Cook Posture:
l. Sit with your spine straight. Place your left foot over your right knee. Hold your left ankle with your right hand and the bottom of your left foot with your left hand.
2. Breathe in slowly through your nose, letting the breath lift your body, while stretching your leg toward you. Exhale slowly through your mouth, relaxing your body. Repeat
four or five times.
3. Switch to the other foot and repeat this entire process.
4. Uncross your legs and "steeple" your fingertips, resting your thumbs just above the bridge of your nose. Breathe slowly in through your nose and out through your mouth three or four times. On exhale, separate your thumb slowly stretching your skin on your forehead. Slowly bring your hands down in front of you. Surrender into your own breathing.
Post by anne12 on Jun 19, 2021 9:40:12 GMT
Where do I end and where do other people begin:
As a hsp you will often feel affected by other peoples energy.
(The green mile - John Coffey)
- The swarm of insects coming out of his mouth was just his way of expelling the negative energies of death out of his system? Cuz if it is, it's almost like a metaphor for releasing oneself of disease and death. Plus, it's actually kinda poetic.
- people who are feeling bad, sad, angry, people who are sick, in pain ect.
- the more densely populated there is where you are/where you live/where you walk/where you work, the more you will be affected by the energies around you
- you can carry energies from your family, sisters and brothers, your ancestors, which is not even your own
- in the building 🏢 or in the house 🏠 you live in, you will be affected if there have lived suffering, ruminating, negative, drama queens and drama kings, dying people, people with different kind of problems and traumas before you
- if you've got neibourgs ect with bad/toxic /angry energy you will be affected.
We can float out into something, that is not beneficial to us and then we are getting drained later in the day. Being drained can feel like heaviness ect.
How to get into power:
It is about that we are the ones who is letting the energy of others into us.
You will get your power back when you ask yourself : "What do I want to be a part of and how do I want to be a part of it"
(You can't just shut your sensitivity off, you will always be sensitive so you have to find ways an d strategies to live with it)
You have to become aware of your own energy system.
Imagine that you are a 🏠 that you have left. Imagine that you have let other people and energies into your house.
When you check things outside of yourself all the time, you have left your house or you have forgot to put walls, doors and windows in your house.
If you are getting drained by other people / if you are being drained of energy, then it is a sign that you have left yourself.
Imagine that you are a house with 4 walls. There has been storm, snow, rain blowing through your house until now.
Remember it is you who decorates the house. It is you who puts walls in the house. You put walls and windows in your house, so that wind and weather can't get into the house.
You are still able to follow, what is going on outside, because you are able to look out of the window.
You are also the one, who can choose to go in and out of your house whenever you want to.
When you are at work, in the mall, when you are walking around ect., then notice how you feel. And remember your 🏠. Are you letting something in or are you aware that you always can close the door and look out of the window ?
A hsp coach
Post by anne12 on Jun 22, 2021 9:17:20 GMT
Houseplants for empaths and hsp's:
Empaths and hsp's notoriously struggle with boundaries, and one of the hardest places to set (and keep) those boundaries is at work. But, did you know… a few houseplants in your cubicle can make ALL the difference! Put a few potted succulents and cacti on your desk. Not only will they help your space feel fresher, but they’ll also do an incredible job of reminding you that, sometimes… it’s okay to protect yourself by standing up for your needs.
Also one of the best ways to deal with anxious moments is to practice breathing, mindfully. And, with houseplants nearby, you get the added benefit of inhaling cleaner and clearer air. Our inhales are actually the plants’ exhales, and vice versa. Breathing with our plant friends can help us get grounded, and fast!
Indoor plants can also be helpfull when the weather just isn’t cooperating, or wild(er) spaces are too far away to easily get to? Indoor plants are a great solution! You can tend to their their leaves, dip your fingertips into their soil, or even smell their blossoms and be instantly transported to a more peaceful state.
PRO TIPS: Mix a variety of succulents, cacti, and evergreen plants. Vary the heights so they work well together, visually – creating a stronger energetic boundary too… Plus, aim for a combination of taller/leafier plants with smaller succulents and cacti. E.g.:
Fiddle Leaf Fig
Low-light loving cacti
An empath/hsp coach
Post by Deleted on Jun 22, 2021 15:09:31 GMT
I wanted to add to this thread, for those who have sound sensitivity:
My audiologist has fitted me for custom ear plugs, called musician's ear plugs. She took a mold of my ears and then ordered a filter for sound that is appropriate for what I need: dimming the environmental noise while maintaining the ability to have conversation. I am waiting for them to come in, I'm excited to have something that doesn't irritate my ear canal (I have small ear canals, maybe because I am a small person, but most ear plugs hurt.)
These are available at hearing aid centers, and even though she says I am suffering hyperacusis, there isn't a lot known yet in western medicine about hearing sensitivity (and HSP!). You don't need a diagnosis to get these ear plugs, they are just ear plugs that are custom molded. Worth checking out, they are expensive at @ $100 USD per ear but will be totally worth it for my comfort.
Post by anne12 on Jun 30, 2021 10:22:38 GMT
Your Inner life is your beauty and strength
The flow of life through you is filled with beautiful waves and colors. When we have lived a whole life, from primarily the rational mindset, we become more rigid, both in the body, in the mind and in our habits.
As a woman, it is your superpower to let life flow freely through you. It is both what will make you happy, free, fill you with energy AND will give you an experience that you are powerful, beautiful and valuable! All this is decisive for whether you stay at home in yourself, do not worry about other opinions / reactions and follow what you love.
When you come home to yourself, you will become aware of your longings, dreams and how you actually want to live them! You can make it a positive habit to feel yourself and your inner life.
The following is an exercise that many women have used to discover their own energy and power! Perform it especially if you do not really want to. It's a sign that you need it. You can ask the questions in connection with putting on some good music that you like. Music is really good at helping us FEEL. Feel the movement of the flow of life through you
Ask and listen to:
How is the movement of life felt in me right now?
Are there places in the body or interior where the flow stops
How does it possible stop?
Am I living in all the cells in my body?
How does it feel ?
This is important! It's your life !! It's vital!
You stiffen without your inner life. You may have learned to overlook it and to think that it is less important. It is not less important !!! It's realy important.
Is it not important to be a luminous, beautiful, happy, resource full, strong, wise, loving, caring, gentle, funny, dynamic, relaxed, wild, powerful and magical ?!
What exactly needs to be fixed first that is more important?
Find a dance video about raising awareness of the inner life. It can help you see it as pictures. These pictures are becoming more and more magical and I can turn on the body by: Imagine flowers, shapes that unfold.
Allow your body to move along with the inner unfolding movements, so that you let your body FILL up with inner life, beauty and magic, here using the music OR move your body until you feel energy and life.
The movement comes from the ground, up through your abdomen and unfolding up through your body, like a fountain. The feminine strength is the inner life and no one can ever take that away from you.
No matter what happens in your life, you can continue to choose to feel your inner life.
Be aware of situations and places where you close off to feel the inner life through you. Use an inside-and-out dance to reopen the inner life.
The more you practice, the easier it will be to open even in situations / environments that seem sad and dry.
Over time, you can stand strong in the inner life and not let yourself be shaken in your right to always be BEAUTIFUL, powerful, clear, free, fluid, flourishing, unfolding and open. Then it is not dangerous to be open, because with practising, you clear out the things in your aura that attracts abuse and disrespect.
Instead, you fill up your charisma with dignity, strength, and the obviousness of being you. Also, the surroundings listen to you and your presence in a different way. You become more present and beautiful
A hsp coach
Post by anne12 on Jul 21, 2021 6:24:39 GMT
Just get over it ?? !!
The lack of empathy and deeper understanding this phrase often implies is simply not acceptable.
Some well-thought-out and ready-to-use practiced responses when and/or if we find ourselves in this kind of situation. Learning to "act vs. react" is a great skill to have in your own HSP Owner's Manual.
But ~~ this ~~ "...just get over it..." ~~ is different.
"...it's time to just 'get over it..." and this is especially true for POC ...it's time to wake up... ...It's cool to be sensitive."
~Will Harper, Director of the 2015 documentary, Sensitive: The Untold Story.
It is empowering for HSPs to turn away from limiting cultural messages that we are weak, small, or unimportant – and to move toward accepting our wisdom as deep thinkers and feelers, emotional leaders, poets, prophets, healers, artists, bridge builders, and creatives shining our lights toward a healthier way of being and living, not only for ourselves but for our families and our world.
Post by krolle on Jul 21, 2021 13:17:52 GMT
Thankyou for all the effort you put in to provide us with so much colourful and descriptive information.
I will be trying some of the exercises you suggested. Even though it's outside my comfort zone to do so.
Hope you are well.
Post by Deleted on Jul 26, 2021 21:13:05 GMT
Interesting! I've contemplated why, when I was younger, I was more social in terms of being out and about in noisy environments- the the answer honestly is that I DID drink when in social situations. I believe that sensitivity and general emotional malaise was why, and surely the alcohol did make this environments more tolerable on many levels.
With age, I had a family and went more into domestic life, less of the kinds of activities that I smoothed with alcohol- less "need" for alcohol... and then eventually found that a life of more solitude suited me very well. As I'm out and about more these days I've questioned how I could even stand it before, without all my ways of coping now (ear plugs, scarves, snacks, sunglasses lol! my sensory safeguards). I think this may be the answer. I'm still figuring stuff out around all that and sort of trying to reconcile the ways that HSP has impacted me. The positives and negatives.