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Post by krolle on Jul 27, 2021 2:02:03 GMT
Interesting! I've contemplated why, when I was younger, I was more social in terms of being out and about in noisy environments- the the answer honestly is that I DID drink when in social situations. I believe that sensitivity and general emotional malaise was why, and surely the alcohol did make this environments more tolerable on many levels. With age, I had a family and went more into domestic life, less of the kinds of activities that I smoothed with alcohol- less "need" for alcohol... and then eventually found that a life of more solitude suited me very well. As I'm out and about more these days I've questioned how I could even stand it before, without all my ways of coping now (ear plugs, scarves, snacks, sunglasses lol! my sensory safeguards). I think this may be the answer. I'm still figuring stuff out around all that and sort of trying to reconcile the ways that HSP has impacted me. The positives and negatives. I can concur. I use drink a lot to reduce the intensity of my sensitivity. Especially in social situations. Alcohol has a powerful effect on me. just one beer and I'm tipsy. One reason I use alcohol strangely enough is to actually be able to feel things. I know its stereotypically used for people to numb so that sounds counterintuitive. But one of the problems I'v been having for a couple of years now is complete lack of the ability to feel a lot of things. Including emotion. In other threads we have discussed about exploring emotion and my problems with it. But since we talked last I have really tried to be mindful of what I feel in case I'm just not aware. But even being mindful... it's barely anything. There's just about nothing going on inside. just empty. I struggle to feel joy, or even sadness or well....most things. I have noticed a lot of mostly disinterest and lack of motivation. Disinterest in food, many hobbies I used to do, being social, seeing something which my mind tells me should be strikingly beautiful. etc....and nothing...no opinion, no pleasure...just empty. I realised after we talked about it, I intellectualize everything because I have no emotional feedback to most situations to be able call upon. When I drink things come at least a little bit alive. I can cry, and I laugh more, and relax enough to be around people, music sounds ok and food seems appealing, and I want to hug everyone. It's very short lived. Maybe just an hour or 2. But relieving in the short term. luckily I usually stop at just a couple of drinks. But I still recognise it's not the healthiest coping mechanism. I have theorized either major depression or some kind of PTSD on top of the HSP stuff. |
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Post by Deleted on Jul 27, 2021 2:52:36 GMT
krolle I've personally found that this open forum isn't a place I'd like to have deep convos, where angry hecklers can interject- but I'll pm you soon!
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Post by annieb on Jul 28, 2021 16:06:53 GMT
Interesting! I've contemplated why, when I was younger, I was more social in terms of being out and about in noisy environments- the the answer honestly is that I DID drink when in social situations. I believe that sensitivity and general emotional malaise was why, and surely the alcohol did make this environments more tolerable on many levels. With age, I had a family and went more into domestic life, less of the kinds of activities that I smoothed with alcohol- less "need" for alcohol... and then eventually found that a life of more solitude suited me very well. As I'm out and about more these days I've questioned how I could even stand it before, without all my ways of coping now (ear plugs, scarves, snacks, sunglasses lol! my sensory safeguards). I think this may be the answer. I'm still figuring stuff out around all that and sort of trying to reconcile the ways that HSP has impacted me. The positives and negatives. I can concur. I use drink a lot to reduce the intensity of my sensitivity. Especially in social situations. Alcohol has a powerful effect on me. just one beer and I'm tipsy. One reason I use alcohol strangely enough is to actually be able to feel things. I know its stereotypically used for people to numb so that sounds counterintuitive. But one of the problems I'v been having for a couple of years now is complete lack of the ability to feel a lot of things. Including emotion. In other threads we have discussed about exploring emotion and my problems with it. But since we talked last I have really tried to be mindful of what I feel in case I'm just not aware. But even being mindful... it's barely anything. There's just about nothing going on inside. just empty. I struggle to feel joy, or even sadness or well....most things. I have noticed a lot of mostly disinterest and lack of motivation. Disinterest in food, many hobbies I used to do, being social, seeing something which my mind tells me should be strikingly beautiful. etc....and nothing...no opinion, no pleasure...just empty. I realised after we talked about it, I intellectualize everything because I have no emotional feedback to most situations to be able call upon. When I drink things come at least a little bit alive. I can cry, and I laugh more, and relax enough to be around people, music sounds ok and food seems appealing, and I want to hug everyone. It's very short lived. Maybe just an hour or 2. But relieving in the short term. luckily I usually stop at just a couple of drinks. But I still recognise it's not the healthiest coping mechanism. I have theorized either major depression or some kind of PTSD on top of the HSP stuff. From my very unscientific research it sounds like you are in a disassociative state most of the time. It is indeed an extreme trauma response. Have you explored where the trauma came from? Sorry, I haven’t read all the posts if you wrote somewhere. Believe it or not, you’d have to dig deep to the trauma origins (that you may have completely forgotten), and basically remember it all and work through it. It will be extremely uncomfortable and unsettling that’s why it’s best to work through it with a therapist, but if therapy is not an option, then make yourself scheduled sessions to do this work. When I was first in therapy six years ago was the first time I accessed a memory of my molestation. I had suppressed that for 30 years and it is very common to suppress. After I had accessed those memories I was able to have a lot more compassion for myself (not enough, and more work had to be done, but it was the first step). I don’t know if the molestation was my most defining childhood trauma as there were many others, but it was definitely the one the memory of which was completely erased. So I would think that my brain deemed it significant. There are other traumas of course, and traumas from adulthood can affect you rather significantly as well. |
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Post by anne12 on Aug 14, 2021 7:15:55 GMT
Hsp and having sex:
Sex Is Different When You’re a Highly Sensitive Person — Here’s How
For starters, even feather-light touch hits differently when you’re a highly sensitive person (HSP).
Powerful physical sensations, plus a need for deep concentration and actual connection, are often hallmarks of intimacy for HSPs.
Many but not all of us need an actual connection to be into it
Trust is a big deal, and having an actual connection is integral. I can’t speak for every sensitive soul out there, but I need to feel both physical and mental attraction to really get into intimacy.
Without it, sex feels incredibly pointless — more like some bizarre type of disconnected, yet mutual, masturbation than an experience of embodied pleasure. Hard pass.
And, for that exact reason, it is recommend keeping a vibrator (or two, or three, or, yaknow,seven) nearby until someone you truly fancy saunters into your life.
Sensual touch and orgasm are intense
We might get irrationally bothered over a scratchy clothing tag, but it’s made up for by the undulating waves of pleasure that douse our bodies during intimacy (when we’re with the right people — who can be hard to find).
“The heightened nervous system rewards HSPs with extremely powerful orgasms,” explains Megan Harrison, a licensed marriage and family therapist and the founder of Couples Candy.
“Particularly when slower and drawn-out sexual movements are made around erogenous zones with many nerve endings.”
Slow and steady wins the race
Our physical pleasure is all in the details. So, that’s a resounding yes to starting slow, subtle, and with consent, as always. Delicate yet deliberate; I can’t think of a more winning combination.
The best sex, to us, is built up over time and ideally has a sprinkle of mystery. That’s not to say there isn’t room for daring adventures — it just takes the right combination and lead up.
Even outside the bedroom, HSP sexuality can be one hell of a force. Our inner worlds can whisk us to faraway places, sometimes delving into deliciously indulgent memories or fantasies for the future.
But that same immense pleasure can be easily derailed
Deep pleasure takes a lot of concentration for us. Sometimes, little things can throw off our sensual groove, putting us into a fog of “now I’m not really feeling it.”
“HSPs can move from deeply engaged to disconnected at a moment’s notice,” Harrison explains. “A single rough touch or distracting noise can totally ruin the experience.”
A self-identified HSP, Harrison adds, “we’re so aware of external stimuli and emotions that managing the personal experience can become difficult with interruptions.”
RIP to that one brewing orgasm ruined by my partner’s dog jumping on the foot of the bed.
Lesson learned: Never underestimate the power of a really good sex playlist to minimize background distractions.
We´ll probably be in la-la land for a while afterward
A good orgasm can send us into a buzzy haze of indulgence, and we might just devolve into a complet blob afterwards.
In “The Highly Sensitive Person in Love,” Aron explains that HSP folks might “find it difficult to go right back to normal life after sex.”
That’s because we’ve just gone through massive amounts of stimulation, and it’s probably all we’ll think about for at least the next hour or so.
That project you were working on? Yeah, probs not gonna happen anymore.
We’re highly perceptive of our partners’ experiences
The HSP tendency to overthink is rife. Sex is no exception. Even in the most, uh, engaging situations.
Not only are we analyzing every fiber of our own sensations, we’re simultaneously trying to imagine how it’s all going from our partner’s perspective.
Emily Stone, PhD, LMFT, the founder and senior clinician at The Unstuck Group, knows it well. Stone says that HSPs sometimes have a “tendency to endure” in their relationships.
It’s not uncommon for us to neglect our own needs because we’re more so thinking about our partner’s experience, which can lead to getting lost in a sexual sea of thought.
When it all lines up right though, Stone says “an HSP’s gifts can bring delight, passion, and depth to the sexual experience in ways that no one else can.” Damn straight.
What non-Hsps should know about being with an HSP
Open dialogue really is the golden ticket here, and it’s a two-way street.
While it’s taken me time to learn how to speak up about what I like and don’t like in the sheets, that assertion has helped my relationships greatly. It’s something we can all benefit from, regardless of where one falls on the sensitivity scale.
According to Shari Botwin, LCSW, a licensed therapist who’s worked with many HSPs, “non-HSPs need to be open to understanding their partner’s experience.”
“They need to be open to listening and communicating feelings before, during, and after intimacy,” she says.
You heard her: Don’t be shy.
The same goes for HSPs. It’s our responsibility to tell our partners what’s working and what isn’t — without worrying about upsetting them. Again, assert yourself. Your desires are worth it.
10 Ways Sex Is Different for Highly Sensitive People
More about hsp and sex:
1. HSPs prefer love and commitment with their intimacy.
HSPs, especially highly sensitive women, often prefer a committed relationship before getting too physical. In many cases, they wait until they love their partner.
A sensitive person might have trouble jumping into a sexual relationship that doesn’t have a strong emotional connection. According to the results of a survey done by Dr. Elaine Aron, author of The Highly Sensitive Person in Love, HSP women said they didn’t enjoy sex as much with someone unless they loved them.
Of course, everyone is different, and that doesn’t mean highly sensitive people can’t have casual sex. But what we know so far has shown us that HSPs tend to need an emotional bond with their partners to truly relax and feel safe in the experience.
2. We might avoid sex due to overarousal.
Even if an HSP enjoys sex, they often need to be in the right headspace to initiate or agree to it.
Highly sensitive humans are overstimulated in many ways throughout the day. By the time we’ve handled work stress, dealt with work traffic, done household chores, planned out dinner, and been exposed to tons of daily life stimuli, engaging in sexual activities might feel like way too much.
If you’re an HSP who has had a particularly stressful or busy day, the act of making love might not seem appealing. HSPs might prefer cuddling or watching a good Netflix show (actual “Netflix-and-chilling”) over sex, the latter of which can feel like a rollercoaster on a busy or emotional day.
And the day might not seem “busy” compared to normal standards. HSPs have overactive minds, and we can become exhausted just from processing social interactions or being around too much noise. Many HSPs view sex as wonderful and even magical — we just need time and space to get in the right mood.
3. When HSPs are in the mood, subtle cues are best.
Research shows HSPs have higher positive emotional reactivity than non-HSPs. We experience positive emotions intensely, including the feelings and emotions associated with arousal.
If touch is too rough or their partner comes on too strong, HSPs may shut down rather than stay engaged. The sudden flip can be frustrating until both parties learn that more is not always better. (Communication is key!)
Small suggestions (rather than strong, explicit cues) turn an HSP on — such as from a gentle touch, a compliment, or a smile from across the room. When a partner knows this, it can make sex — and the moments leading up to it — incredible for both the sensitive person and their partner.
4. The difference between pleasure and pain is a fine line.
HSPs experience everything more intensely than non-HSPs. If something doesn’t feel quite right, it can become painful or uncomfortable. Sensitive people might need to be more communicative with their partners to note sudden or overwhelming feelings. This is just another reason that HSPs might prefer sex with someone they love — because love (hopefully) comes with trust and being comfortable enough to share openly.
HSPs might also worry about expressing when something becomes painful. Maybe they think they shouldn’t be overwhelmed or can tell their partner is enjoying the experience and don’t want to interrupt it. However, this is also why HSPs need partners who listen and can be sensitive to their unique needs.
5. Transitions are so important.
A recent study suggested HSP brains feel things deeply, even “at rest,” after emotionally stimulating experiences. It takes us more time to get back into normal life after something that has us feeling all sorts of ways.
In the same way, after sex, we might need time to appreciate the moment before we move into the rest of the day (or night). For some, that might mean cuddling or speaking softly with your partner, or just lying quietly.
And that goes the other way, too. HSPs can rarely jump right into something stimulating without proper transitions. Sex might feel like a mountain to climb unless there is a buildup — like time to get in the mood. Telling your partner this can help, as well. For some people, that might mean planning for sex on a specific day or time when you don’t have too much going on before or after. While it might not sound that sexy, the waiting can actually be exciting for both parties! (Plus, it can help reduce overwhelm for us HSPs.)
6. HSPs are sensitive to their partner’s sexual needs.
Research shows that HSPs are often very empathetic because they’re highly in tune with others’ emotions, and that extends to the bedroom. A sensitive person wants their partner to have a good time, and they might avoid sharing their own needs — or discomfort — to make the other person happy.
HSPs pick up on subtleties, like body language, even in bed, and they often know if someone is uncomfortable or not feeling the situation. They might even pick up on cues before their partner is sure what they need. This can make sensitive people very attentive and caring lovers. At the same time, sensitive souls might need to voice their own needs more, especially at the beginning of a relationship, if their partner is less intuitive.
“For HSPs, communication becomes a big part of the emotional connection and intimacy with enjoyable sex,” Dr. Aprile Andelle, a licensed marriage and family therapist who has worked with HSP clients, tells me. “So, sexy talk with a partner, and being open and honest about what you do or do not enjoy, will be a plus.”
7. Variety is not always necessary.
According to Dr. Aron, HSPs “find sex to be more mysterious and powerful than non-HSPs.” At the same time, they prefer routine when it comes to their sex lives. They’re already enchanted enough by the sexual connection and might not feel the need to “complicate” things.
Also, sensitive souls often prefer to take it slow and build up to pleasure. While media might portray great sex as intense with over-the-top orgasms, HSPs may get more fulfillment from subtle movements and slow and steady paces. Too much, too fast can even hurt or have the opposite effect.
8. Distraction might derail things.
Sounds, sights, or even thoughts that creep into the situation might distract an HSP from sex.
If they’re worried about a social interaction earlier in the day, they hear the neighbor mowing the lawn outside, the sheets are too scratchy, there’s too much light (or not enough), etc., it can make it difficult to stay in the mood and enjoy the moment.
“As an HSP, it’s 100 percent okay to take initiative with sex and ‘set the scene’ of the environment, such as lighting, music, and aesthetics, to manage stimuli,” says Dr. Andelle.
Partners of HSPs might also use this fact to help set the mood! Ask the HSP what they like (and don’t like), and have fun preparing the perfect conditions. After all, environment is so important to HSPs and can really have an impact on their mood and comfort levels.
9. Overstimulation? No, thanks. Slow and steady is best.
Sensitive people of any gender, including HSP men, can easily become overstimulated. As a result, highly sensitive people might need to stop if they become overly overstimulated during sex and can’t enjoy the moment.
“HSPs are more likely to focus better on arousal with ‘slow down sex’ rather than quickies, where each party takes their time with touch and sensation,” says Dr. Andelle. So, HSPs, slow and steady is often the place to start.
10. That post-sex emotional hangover…
Even good experiences can feel like a lot for HSPs.
Studies have shown that both males and females experience what’s known as postcoital dysphoria (PCD), or crying, after sex. HSPs tend to cry more easily in general, so if they have intense emotions after a lovemaking session, the experience is completely normal. They might have a strong emotional reaction because they’re happy, satisfied, or just overwhelmed with the whole thing. (This is just another reason we sensitive types need time to decompress from the experience before getting back to life.)
HSPs’ Empathetic Natures Can Make Them Great Sexual Partners
Sex can still feel like a taboo topic, but it’s an important one to talk about, especially concerning HSPs, because our experiences can be different from the norm. Pleasure, preferences, and desires can be complex and exciting for everyone. And for sensitive people, there can be even more layers to what works best.
But HSPs can (and deserve to!) enjoy sex just like everyone else, and our empathetic natures can make us great lovers. We often just need partners who understand our needs, our concerns, and the need for communication about our differences.
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Post by krolle on Aug 15, 2021 0:24:39 GMT
one thing I woukd like to add.
A HSP can act like a complete non HSP is they're shut down due to overwhelm.
I am definately an HSP at heart and grew up that way. But much of my emotions, my physical sensations, my feelings are all but numb these days.
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Post by krolle on Aug 15, 2021 0:38:32 GMT
I can concur. I use drink a lot to reduce the intensity of my sensitivity. Especially in social situations. Alcohol has a powerful effect on me. just one beer and I'm tipsy. One reason I use alcohol strangely enough is to actually be able to feel things. I know its stereotypically used for people to numb so that sounds counterintuitive. But one of the problems I'v been having for a couple of years now is complete lack of the ability to feel a lot of things. Including emotion. In other threads we have discussed about exploring emotion and my problems with it. But since we talked last I have really tried to be mindful of what I feel in case I'm just not aware. But even being mindful... it's barely anything. There's just about nothing going on inside. just empty. I struggle to feel joy, or even sadness or well....most things. I have noticed a lot of mostly disinterest and lack of motivation. Disinterest in food, many hobbies I used to do, being social, seeing something which my mind tells me should be strikingly beautiful. etc....and nothing...no opinion, no pleasure...just empty. I realised after we talked about it, I intellectualize everything because I have no emotional feedback to most situations to be able call upon. When I drink things come at least a little bit alive. I can cry, and I laugh more, and relax enough to be around people, music sounds ok and food seems appealing, and I want to hug everyone. It's very short lived. Maybe just an hour or 2. But relieving in the short term. luckily I usually stop at just a couple of drinks. But I still recognise it's not the healthiest coping mechanism. I have theorized either major depression or some kind of PTSD on top of the HSP stuff. From my very unscientific research it sounds like you are in a disassociative state most of the time. It is indeed an extreme trauma response. Have you explored where the trauma came from? Sorry, I haven’t read all the posts if you wrote somewhere. Believe it or not, you’d have to dig deep to the trauma origins (that you may have completely forgotten), and basically remember it all and work through it. It will be extremely uncomfortable and unsettling that’s why it’s best to work through it with a therapist, but if therapy is not an option, then make yourself scheduled sessions to do this work. When I was first in therapy six years ago was the first time I accessed a memory of my molestation. I had suppressed that for 30 years and it is very common to suppress. After I had accessed those memories I was able to have a lot more compassion for myself (not enough, and more work had to be done, but it was the first step). I don’t know if the molestation was my most defining childhood trauma as there were many others, but it was definitely the one the memory of which was completely erased. So I would think that my brain deemed it significant. There are other traumas of course, and traumas from adulthood can affect you rather significantly as well. I'm really sorry you had to go through that. I don't think I had any big T trauma. But a lifetime of feeling alone and 'different' changed my brain for sure. Plus, a whole slew of just awful relationships |
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Post by tnr9 on Aug 15, 2021 4:06:09 GMT
one thing I woukd like to add. A HSP can act like a complete non HSP is they're shut down due to overwhelm. I am definately an HSP at heart and grew up that way. But much of my emotions, my physical sensations, my feelings are all but numb these days. I am sorry you are experiencing this…how do you determine how you feel or do you just feel shut down. I tend to still have strong emotions…it is my gut that feels numb….like I have lost my compass, my North Star….so I feel mostly adrift. What bothers me at times is feeling emotionally hijacked by others…like my mom….I will feel things from her that she does not express and then I feel like I have to caretaker or defend her. |
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Post by anne12 on Aug 21, 2021 2:40:05 GMT
Sound sensitivity
Find out how to use your sound sensitivity as an advantage, so that you can turn up your energy and take good care of yourself
Find out what sounds anoys you. Write them down
- people eating carrots, chips
- your partner who snores
- the Sound of a fan
ect.
Find out which voices and sounds that reassure you.
Make a playlist with voices, music, sounds, meditations, naturesounds ect. that can help you to regulate. Keep it on your phone. Also remember the voice of your partner and other people WHO’s voices that you like. Maybe your partners voice was the frist thing you notised about him/her when you met eachother.
Notise your body. Your body responds to what you need
You become more sensitive to sound when you are tired.
Find out what you need when you are tired
- make sure to rest, move away from the person, the noice, take breaks at the toilet, go out in the nature
Make a list of all the sounds you love - birdsong, audiobooks, music, guided meditations, a friends voice, the Sound of the ocean
Some sounds can refuel you some days and other days they may drain you
Find out what give you nurichment on a cellular level
What can help you get back into balance when you get affected e.g. by other peoples harsh tone of voice, the Sound of an ambulance, your baby screaming, traffic noice, the Sound of a cofeemachine at work ect.
Use the resources you have written down on your list to get back into balance.
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Post by krolle on Aug 21, 2021 15:08:35 GMT
Sound sensitivity Find out how to use your sound sensitivity as an advantage, so that you can turn up your energy and take good care of yourself Find out what sounds anoys you. Write them down - people eating carrots, chips - your partner who snores - the Sound of a fan ect. Find out which voices and sounds that reassure you. Make a playlist with voices, music, sounds, meditations, naturesounds ect. that can help you to regulate. Keep it on your phone. Also remember the voice of your partner and other people WHO’s voices that you like. Maybe your partners voice was the frist thing you notised about him/her when you met eachother. Notise your body. Your body responds to what you need You become more sensitive to sound when you are tired. Find out what you need when you are tired - make sure to rest, move away from the person, the noice, take breaks at the toilet, go out in the nature Make a list of all the sounds you love - birdsong, audiobooks, music, guided meditations, a friends voice, the Sound of the ocean Some sounds can refuel you some days and other days they may drain you Find out what give you nurichment on a cellular level What can help you get back into balance when you get affected e.g. by other peoples harsh tone of voice, the Sound of an ambulance, your baby screaming, traffic noice, the Sound of a cofeemachine at work ect. Use the resources you have written down on your list to get back into balance. Great post Anne. I have really gotten into ASMR audio tracks in recent years to help relax. I also take ear plugs with me a lot of places it is safe to do so these days. Noise is one of my pet peeves I have noticed. If you or anyone reading has local access to a place of natural wilderness I highly suggest it. Part of the reason I do back country trips is for the quiet. It heals your soul to just be in silence. No distant sirens or car horns etc. It makes the hair on the back of your neck stand up. like being in a cathedral or something. |
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Post by Deleted on Aug 21, 2021 16:03:50 GMT
Checking in after a month or so focusing on other things- but I still come to read your posts as they have changed my life anne12! I can't say enough about the custom ear plugs I got from my audiologist. They have custom filters and I use an 18db filter for just about anywhere I go out amongst hustle bustle noise. I can have conversations but everything is taken down a notch or two or three. I also have easy quick access to wilderness and spend lots of time there. My boyfriend and I have been making little retreats as well, and it increases our bond. I use my ear plugs like he uses his hearing aids. It's just a necessity for living comfortably and interacting with others. I've come to accept it and I'm extremely grateful for them. I view hearing sensitivity as a complication of the modern world- it's only unnatural sounds that bother me really- in fact modern inventions create a lot of sensory issues for me. Lights, air conditioning, noise. So to nature I go, I feel it's where I am most at home. And when away from home I take my ear plugs!  |
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Post by krolle on Aug 21, 2021 18:36:59 GMT
one thing I woukd like to add. A HSP can act like a complete non HSP is they're shut down due to overwhelm. I am definately an HSP at heart and grew up that way. But much of my emotions, my physical sensations, my feelings are all but numb these days. I am sorry you are experiencing this…how do you determine how you feel or do you just feel shut down. I tend to still have strong emotions…it is my gut that feels numb….like I have lost my compass, my North Star….so I feel mostly adrift. What bothers me at times is feeling emotionally hijacked by others…like my mom….I will feel things from her that she does not express and then I feel like I have to caretaker or defend her. I am also sorry for your experience with being emotionally hijacked. Maybe that is related to a desire to people please too I imagine. Could you elaborate on This. Do you perhaps mean that she acts passive aggresive around you and you feel a pressure to fix that sensation? I am not aware of any kind of gut feeling in myself. I was always under the impression that was a metaphor. |
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Post by alexandra on Aug 21, 2021 19:34:59 GMT
krolle, it's not really a metaphor. I think it's an umbrella term referring to instincts at large, but your stomach scientifically has like a second primal brain in it. www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/the-brain-gut-connection"Scientists call this little brain the enteric nervous system (ENS). And it’s not so little. The ENS is two thin layers of more than 100 million nerve cells lining your gastrointestinal tract from esophagus to rectum."
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Post by krolle on Aug 22, 2021 1:07:10 GMT
Checking in after a month or so focusing on other things- but I still come to read your posts as they have changed my life anne12! I can't say enough about the custom ear plugs I got from my audiologist. They have custom filters and I use an 18db filter for just about anywhere I go out amongst hustle bustle noise. I can have conversations but everything is taken down a notch or two or three. I also have easy quick access to wilderness and spend lots of time there. My boyfriend and I have been making little retreats as well, and it increases our bond. I use my ear plugs like he uses his hearing aids. It's just a necessity for living comfortably and interacting with others. I've come to accept it and I'm extremely grateful for them. I view hearing sensitivity as a complication of the modern world- it's only unnatural sounds that bother me really- in fact modern inventions create a lot of sensory issues for me. Lights, air conditioning, noise. So to nature I go, I feel it's where I am most at home. And when away from home I take my ear plugs! Lovely to hear from you introvert! Please update us about yourself if you have time. I'm interesting yo hear how you have been. Any progress in your life etc. |
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Post by krolle on Aug 22, 2021 1:12:17 GMT
krolle, it's not really a metaphor. I think it's an umbrella term referring to instincts at large, but your stomach scientifically has like a second primal brain in it. www.hopkinsmedicine.org/health/wellness-and-prevention/the-brain-gut-connection"Scientists call this little brain the enteric nervous system (ENS). And it’s not so little. The ENS is two thin layers of more than 100 million nerve cells lining your gastrointestinal tract from esophagus to rectum." Thankyou for the link Alexandra. Very interesting read! I have been looking into the relationship between brain and gut health for a while. So I'm somewhat versed on the current research and theories. But it's a pretty cool avenue of contemporary research. Especially to those of us with both digestive and mood problems. Of which Im sure there are a few reading this. Regarding the gut feeling thing. Then I suppose I don't get any information from my stomach in response to a hunch. Do you? |
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Post by alexandra on Aug 22, 2021 1:43:15 GMT
krolle, I definitely have instincts about things like reading people and intentions, if a situation seems like something will go awry or not, if there's a pattern that should be paid attention to, the way things are likely to unfold, things like that, but I don't notice them as being from my gut. The only feelings I connect specifically to my gut are anxiety and excitement. I'm also in general pretty cerebral. So I was interested in hearing tnr9 's answer since you originally posed the question to her, and she's done a bunch of somatic experience work.
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