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Post by Deleted on Dec 18, 2019 2:07:16 GMT
I am DA working with my attachment issues using Somatic Experiencing, and it's powerful. It is changing things for me in a very noticeable way. If you are interested you can contact them to ask for provider directory, it can be done via video chat or in office. I like in office but my therapist is in another state and video works great too. It is hard to explain how this works but it addresses incomplete nervous system responses in the body and nervous system regulation, as well as meanings attached to situations, etc. It's really effective.
The institute is also home to Diane Poole Heller and her attachment therapy Protocols. So there are practitioners who address attachment wounds specifically with a related but separate protocol. My therapist is certified in SE and DARE attachment protocols.
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Post by Deleted on Dec 18, 2019 2:07:55 GMT
TraumaHealing.org
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Post by amber on Dec 18, 2019 2:27:57 GMT
Could you share your therapists details? What differences are you noticing and how long have you been doing this for?
Cheers!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 18, 2019 2:48:26 GMT
Could you share your therapists details? What differences are you noticing and how long have you been doing this for? Cheers! I want to keep my personal therapist's details private so that I can remain geographically anonymous, the less detail online the better  But they are located all over the world. I have gained access to somatic feelings and sensations that were limited or absent before, especially when triggered to deactivation. I have increased emotional intimacy with friends and partner, learning to reach out for co regulation for emotion and nervous system. I am having dreams where for years I had none, my system was shut down deeper and deeper over time but now I dream vividly and often remember details. I have more energy in day to day life actually, am not as suppressed. I go through periods of increased discomfort as I thaw out a little, it's not pleasant to access pain underlying freeze states so I have had to grieve and felt some general anxiety, but that is apparently part of working through to new coping and regulating skills. I have a lot more body awareness with feeling, for example I feel all kinds of sensations like warm fuzzy with safety and affection, which I cannot recall feeling before except in relation to my children. Prior to somatic work my body sensations were often absent or muted and limited to either a heart pounding if angry or a pressure feeling of freeze right before deactivation. Other emotional sensations were probably there at some times but not really noticed or registered. I basically have more attunement with others and am more emotionally vulnerable and open which is not always easy. But the modality is designed to address instinctive responses- from developmental or other trauma- and complete nervous system cycles to regulation. So fear of engulfment or control from developmental trauma or issues certainly is something this would address. This is not as much an issue for me personally unless I discover that the profound sadness I've recently experienced in treatment with eye gazing, is related to that. I'm learning as I go and become more aware of what's up inside. |
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Post by amber on Dec 18, 2019 2:53:11 GMT
No worries Thankyou!
Interesting, you didn’t dream much before? What attachment style do you have?
My ex FA didn’t dream much unless I slept next to him, I wonder if this is related to being emotionally shut down??
That’s amazing progress you have made there, how long did you say you have been in therapy? Did you just think prior to therapy that you were not a very emotional/ anxious person? Thanks for sharing, that’s great
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Post by amber on Dec 18, 2019 2:53:56 GMT
Ps my mother had sever FA and BPD so I have a lot of fears of engulfment but also terrible abandonment anxiety. I will look into SE for help with this!!
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Post by Deleted on Dec 18, 2019 3:28:23 GMT
No worries Thankyou! Interesting, you didn’t dream much before? What attachment style do you have? My ex FA didn’t dream much unless I slept next to him, I wonder if this is related to being emotionally shut down?? That’s amazing progress you have made there, how long did you say you have been in therapy? Did you just think prior to therapy that you were not a very emotional/ anxious person? Thanks for sharing, that’s great I am avoidant (dismissive) so don't have a lot of sympathetic nervous system symptoms- a general suppression of emotion. Not emotionless just muted and less intense I guess, I haven't lived in numbness. I still wouldn't say I am a very anxious person at all- but when I have a worry or stressor I experience physical sensations and more thought about it rather than a separation from it. It's hard to describe other than just being more tuned in and less tuned out. I am a little uncomfortable with the level of emotionality I am experiencing because it feels like too much sometimes, but I was told to expect that. And no, for years I had lost my dreams, night time dreams. I had them when younger, but I also went through periods of situational disorganized. I lost my dreams in more recent years and it goes together with some losses that drove me deeper into freeze and/or avoidant attachment, I guess. Your BF dreaming while with you may be because he was simply more regulated (we tune to each other) when relaxed with you. I have been in therapy over the years on and off, done self help work including attachment, but it has been not nearly as helpful as the Somatic experiencing work, which i have done I think about half a year, intensively. It's very expensive, I have developed a little debt for it but I don't regret that. People do that for education or material things all the time and this is more valuable than those things, to me. SE would help you with your background. I don't doubt that at all. |
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Post by tnr9 on Dec 18, 2019 12:44:44 GMT
I am AP and am seeing my SE therapist in person. SE for me has been peeling back the layers of self blame, enmeshment and shame to find my voice. Currently we are working on my overactive nervous system and pulling together a cohesive story of my past.
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Post by amber on Dec 19, 2019 2:21:48 GMT
This is great to know! I’m starting work with an SE therapist today
Tnr9 what progress have you seen with your therapy?
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Post by Deleted on Dec 19, 2019 3:26:43 GMT
This is great to know! I’m starting work with an SE therapist today Tnr9 what progress have you seen with your therapy? That's awesome, I hope that it is helpful for you. Let us know how it goes! |
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Post by tnr9 on Dec 19, 2019 13:45:13 GMT
This is great to know! I’m starting work with an SE therapist today Tnr9 what progress have you seen with your therapy? I would say it has been more of gaining awareness into why I do the things I do and pulling together a cohesive story of my past. i think being able to say that if I could go back, I would not have dated B was a powerful insight....it has actually allowed me to speak to some of the ways he did not meet my needs without feeling like I needed to defend him (just like I often did/do with my mom). Ever since I made that statement, I have felt the pull towards him lose a bit of it’s grip...and a more realistic picture is beginning to emerge. |
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But they are located all over the world.
