Just a lot of thoughts

I made a decision when my first wife moved on that I’d never stay in the way of someone else again. Two years after, I got sober and people just dropped off like flies, so I understand the need to grow regardless of what people think. Second time around in marriage, it was apparent that I was doing the same thing - trying to maintain the status quo. It doesn’t work, but there’s the added layer of marriage, and young kids, which I don’t think can be discounted. Conundrum.