Engulfment and Abandonment fears

Yes it was interesting to me too, I started researching engulfment because I didn't really understand what that meant. I mean, I'm avoidant and know all about my one person psychology, that makes a lot of sense but I thought engulfment referred just to something like helicopter parenting, over attentiveness. I did not experience that- it was a serious underattentiveness. So I thought my wound was just neglect and paucity of contact. But I get the engulfment concept now and it aligns with what I experienced in terms of a psychological engulfment, of being overwritten and invalidated at points of vulnerable contact (a general statement to make it concise).

It does a good job of explaining both sides of the spectrum I think- at least it made more sense of my history. I haven't spent too much time trying to figure out origins. I'm a person who would say my childhood was great, parents great, no issues too serious. That's odd now that I understand it all- I used to describe my childhood in positive terms and can see where I was doing the textbook DA thing there.

I'm glad you found it a helpful resource also!

I've experienced some fear of abandonment but it manifests as deactivation . Any perceived threat to my equilibrium = Go it alone. I still have to work with that. It's a long process. Crazy lol.