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Post by nyc718 on Jan 2, 2020 21:52:06 GMT
nyc718 Well, I'm guessing then you could maybe be in double trouble....  Sigh, no doubt! It has sucked! ;-) |
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Post by mrob on Jan 2, 2020 22:10:43 GMT
Interesting. But I do wonder how that relates to men with avoidant attachment, because avoidants are already challenged in having romantic relationships. So this added layer of it having to be "worth it", I mean, for avoidants, no one is worth it! That's not always the truth, especially for FAs. A Dismissive Avoidant generally doesn't see the need - and we're lacking active DAs at the moment to corroborate. |
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Post by faithopelove on Jan 2, 2020 23:39:43 GMT
Interesting. But I do wonder how that relates to men with avoidant attachment, because avoidants are already challenged in having romantic relationships. So this added layer of it having to be "worth it", I mean, for avoidants, no one is worth it! That's not always the truth, especially for FAs. A Dismissive Avoidant generally doesn't see the need - and we're lacking active DAs at the moment to corroborate. - DA’s generally want a relationship in their mind, but they lack the belief and trust in relationships being sustainable over time and view them as more of a liability than an asset - to them, the relationships cause all kind of dramas and complications they could entirely avoid if on their own. |
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Post by nyc718 on Jan 3, 2020 1:40:08 GMT
Interesting. But I do wonder how that relates to men with avoidant attachment, because avoidants are already challenged in having romantic relationships. So this added layer of it having to be "worth it", I mean, for avoidants, no one is worth it! That's not always the truth, especially for FAs. A Dismissive Avoidant generally doesn't see the need - and we're lacking active DAs at the moment to corroborate. I'm confused.. don't FAs just push everyone away that get too close because they get engulfed? I was speaking regarding the subconscious kicking in and causing the inexplicable anxiety that makes an FA deactivate. No one can actually be good enough to be "worth" the stress it causes, no? |
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Post by hannah99 on Jan 12, 2020 20:28:27 GMT
Having a panic again. Haven't seen him for a week due to schedule clashes and it's got me spiralling again. I just feel really really sad and my instinct is to end things with him.
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Post by alexandra on Jan 12, 2020 20:53:41 GMT
Having a panic again. Haven't seen him for a week due to schedule clashes and it's got me spiralling again. I just feel really really sad and my instinct is to end things with him. You're trying to avoid pain. Will ending things with him really fix anything longer-term? |
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Post by hannah99 on Jan 13, 2020 20:36:26 GMT
I keep finding problems and don't know if they're genuine or me trying to find a reason to end things.
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