Blocked on everything

I am consumed with thinking how my ex FA had the strength to block me on everything when hes always wanted to keep the communication open in the past.
I know he said he thought it was the kindest thing to do to heal and he is right.
But where did he find the strenght.
This is silly shit I am asking and I know that, but I just need to share my thoughts rather than ruminating on them.
Feeling a little used and abused right now.

Can you rephrase that thought?  I know we oftentimes view “blocking” in a very negative light....but can you see it instead as something that benefits you in finally moving forward with your life?  I know it is shitty because it gives you no choices and leaves an incredibly big black hole with lots of “what is he up to” tapes...but....are you really able to move on if you have access to his page?  Also...the tapes are going to keep pointing you to ask questions and ruminate about him....but, what about you?  What are you feeling?  What do you want?  This is incredibly scary stuff...but you deserve a partner who does not boomerang..,.one who does not play games all the time (aka be there but not really be there), one who helps you to be your best self.  

Here is a truth...what he meant to you was only a projection of your inner need to connect and there are loads of healthier people to connect to. Sending hugs.

I probably have a slightly more cynical view, but I think his blocking and `I'm doing this for helsbells benefit' statements is a game he plays to both avoid accountability for chasing other women, and keeping her on the hook with his `I'm doing it for you' crap.

He's blocking because he doesn't want to deal with the hurt he causes her when he cheats. He fails with other other women and comes back for her love. Rinse and repeat. Its an awful way to treat someone vulnerable who cares and loves you, and he doesn't want to change or hear about how it affects her.

I agree, stop the boomerang. Block him somehow, even if it takes a bit of time to work yourself up to it. This behaviour will crush your self esteem, and its hard enough being a woman in your 50's and all the negativity towards older women from society and media. More than ever, you need to bring positive people into your life now (and there are many out there).


Yes I can see what you're saying! Although it hurts to know what peeps are up to I feel the not knowing is worse as you constantly think about it and it's harder to accept, whereas when you know it feels awful but in time you learn to accept it and can move on easier. At least if you yourself choose to block someone you are at least taking some sort of control....
i agree though it's an awful way to treat someone ....