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Post by Me on Jan 25, 2020 0:10:39 GMT
Having a really bad time these past 3 days I feel like I cant calm my anxiety . We had a huge fight yesterday and I talked about leaving . That's the worst it's gotten between us . All he worried about was me finding someone to move in so he doesnt have to pay the rent alone . I wanted to talk about arrangements with our son if I go but he wouldn't discuss it and now we are barely speaking . I want to talk but I know he wont care so I'm not really bothering . I dont know what to do anymore . I want to fix it for my son but I dont even know how anymore . I've tried everything. I want him to comfort me when he is the one who keeps hurting me and I hate it . I dont think I will ever get in another relationship after this
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Jan 25, 2020 9:08:41 GMT
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Post by Helsbells on Jan 25, 2020 9:08:41 GMT
Having a really bad time these past 3 days I feel like I cant calm my anxiety . We had a huge fight yesterday and I talked about leaving . That's the worst it's gotten between us . All he worried about was me finding someone to move in so he doesnt have to pay the rent alone . I wanted to talk about arrangements with our son if I go but he wouldn't discuss it and now we are barely speaking . I want to talk but I know he wont care so I'm not really bothering . I dont know what to do anymore . I want to fix it for my son but I dont even know how anymore . I've tried everything. I want him to comfort me when he is the one who keeps hurting me and I hate it . I dont think I will ever get in another relationship after this Oh dear I am so sorry, your pain really comes through in your message here. The wanting to be comforted from your SO when your in pain but they just cant or wont give it is heartbreaking. Would you like to share abit more. Have you been together long, does your SO fit the description of someone more on the avoidant side. His focusing on outside problems like covering the rent appears very emotionally detached and avoidant. If your new around here you will be well supported this forum has been a great comfort to me x |
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Post by mezzer on Jan 25, 2020 21:39:03 GMT
It’s a horrible feeling when the one person in the world who has the ability to comfort you either can’t or won’t, you have my sympathy, I hope you find some words of advice from the more clued up members, but know that you are not alone, there are many on here who understand, your feelings and want to offer support
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Jan 26, 2020 22:55:15 GMT
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Post by Me on Jan 26, 2020 22:55:15 GMT
Thanks both of you . I have posted on here a few times and everyone has been lovely .
He seems very avoidant to me maybe even narcissistic traits as well . I know I need to leave because he treats me badly but it's hard I dont know if I'm quite ready but I think for my mental health I need to .
It's a bit more complicated because we have a young child together
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Post by tnr9 on Jan 27, 2020 0:32:26 GMT
Thanks both of you . I have posted on here a few times and everyone has been lovely . He seems very avoidant to me maybe even narcissistic traits as well . I know I need to leave because he treats me badly but it's hard I dont know if I'm quite ready but I think for my mental health I need to . It's a bit more complicated because we have a young child together If you think he may be a true narcissist...then I highly recommend the forum..it’s all about him. It is geared to people who are or who have been in a relationship with a narcissist. I was in a 3 year relationship with one and I really wish I could get those years back. |
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Jan 27, 2020 14:44:22 GMT
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Post by annieb on Jan 27, 2020 14:44:22 GMT
If he has narcissistic traits, you are probably in a manipulated state at the moment. You need to figure out a way to get away from him. Get all your ducks in the row so you can make an exit. Once you get away and are no contact or gray rock, your mindset will drastically change. You will have to explore why you tolerated emotional abuse and stay away from it in the future.
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