Post by Deleted on Aug 26, 2017 19:17:39 GMT
I might be barking up the wrong tree here but I see to see some DA traits in myself in life in general - perhaps less so in the few close relationships and friendships that I have.
Not sure how well I can explain this, but I have a certain detachment from life in general that enables me to do really well in trauma and emergency situations, to be very clear headed amidst chaotic interpersonal interactions and to exude a kind of mellow calm that tends to have me labelled as laid back even when inside I don't feel relaxed.
There are things I avoid in everyday life that makes me appear unusual - for example most social interactions, I'm not interested in money, shopping, clothes, makeup. I believe that I use food to nullify the chaos that comes from having to live a life interacting with children, friends, running a household etc Food allows me to avoid the hectic. Given the choice I would like to live a peaceful calm life, with a mate and a couple of close friends - I don't fee the need for much more than this. I do exercise alot and wonder if this too is some kind of avoidance and control thing?
I suppose the question is - is it possible to be DA in life whilst being able and willing to be more open in a relationship?
I have never been abused or badly hurt but I do feel I sometimes live in a detached way that I would expect from someone who had been. Not sure if any of this makes sense - what is it that DAs are trying to avoid outside relationships - if anything?
Not sure how well I can explain this, but I have a certain detachment from life in general that enables me to do really well in trauma and emergency situations, to be very clear headed amidst chaotic interpersonal interactions and to exude a kind of mellow calm that tends to have me labelled as laid back even when inside I don't feel relaxed.
There are things I avoid in everyday life that makes me appear unusual - for example most social interactions, I'm not interested in money, shopping, clothes, makeup. I believe that I use food to nullify the chaos that comes from having to live a life interacting with children, friends, running a household etc Food allows me to avoid the hectic. Given the choice I would like to live a peaceful calm life, with a mate and a couple of close friends - I don't fee the need for much more than this. I do exercise alot and wonder if this too is some kind of avoidance and control thing?
I suppose the question is - is it possible to be DA in life whilst being able and willing to be more open in a relationship?
I have never been abused or badly hurt but I do feel I sometimes live in a detached way that I would expect from someone who had been. Not sure if any of this makes sense - what is it that DAs are trying to avoid outside relationships - if anything?
