Post by seeking on Mar 1, 2020 5:31:50 GMT
I'm working through some past relationship history and not only trying to figure out my own type, but also that of exes and someone new I met.
He is A LOT like me. But I'm trying to be more conscious, and I think he's more just "in his stuff."
I've talked to him a bunch on the phone, and we've only gone out on one date and plan on a second.
His ex cheated on him. To me, it seems clear she may have been avoidant and he was able to be with her.
He told me on 1st date "A lot of people are needy" (meaning about the people he's met or gone out with or encountered) this felt like an avoidant-type red flag.
In his profile he says he wants a deep, meaningful relationship.
He has some pretty endearing traits - hardworking (Capricorn) (like me), devoted to a child that he helped raise but isn't his, tried to get ex to move back to this state by offering her his house (a new one) so that he could be near his son.
Was SUPER nervous on our date. Told me on the phone before first date to "lower your expectations" (but was joking).
Told me he has "a lot of nervous energy"
told me he "has trouble making eye contact."
Seemed ready to leave after an hour of first date even though it was going well.
No clear sense whether he liked me or not.
But then I got a text 2 hours after the date (it was in the morning) telling me he'd like to see me again (but in his own way, kind of jokey).
We made a date for tonight, but then found out his daughter was coming. (I get it, I have a daughter too). Then moved me to Sunday. Then joked "If your dream date is meeting 1x a month, I'm it." Because he found out at the new job he started that he had to travel for 2 weeks and when he got back, his son was coming for a rare visit for days.
Anyway, we texted a bunch and I made him laugh. Days pass with no texts. Tonight I got a text that he's looking forward to seeing me (but it's like 2 weeks away? - I basically figured I'd see him a month from now). He said this is an anomaly.
He also told me he likes his alone time, he's an introvert, and I once said I went to bed at 8:30 and he was like "Good, I can have 2 hours to myself" (I guess meaning he goes to bed at 10:30)
Type?
He is A LOT like me. But I'm trying to be more conscious, and I think he's more just "in his stuff."
I've talked to him a bunch on the phone, and we've only gone out on one date and plan on a second.
His ex cheated on him. To me, it seems clear she may have been avoidant and he was able to be with her.
He told me on 1st date "A lot of people are needy" (meaning about the people he's met or gone out with or encountered) this felt like an avoidant-type red flag.
In his profile he says he wants a deep, meaningful relationship.
He has some pretty endearing traits - hardworking (Capricorn) (like me), devoted to a child that he helped raise but isn't his, tried to get ex to move back to this state by offering her his house (a new one) so that he could be near his son.
Was SUPER nervous on our date. Told me on the phone before first date to "lower your expectations" (but was joking).
Told me he has "a lot of nervous energy"
told me he "has trouble making eye contact."
Seemed ready to leave after an hour of first date even though it was going well.
No clear sense whether he liked me or not.
But then I got a text 2 hours after the date (it was in the morning) telling me he'd like to see me again (but in his own way, kind of jokey).
We made a date for tonight, but then found out his daughter was coming. (I get it, I have a daughter too). Then moved me to Sunday. Then joked "If your dream date is meeting 1x a month, I'm it." Because he found out at the new job he started that he had to travel for 2 weeks and when he got back, his son was coming for a rare visit for days.
Anyway, we texted a bunch and I made him laugh. Days pass with no texts. Tonight I got a text that he's looking forward to seeing me (but it's like 2 weeks away? - I basically figured I'd see him a month from now). He said this is an anomaly.
He also told me he likes his alone time, he's an introvert, and I once said I went to bed at 8:30 and he was like "Good, I can have 2 hours to myself" (I guess meaning he goes to bed at 10:30)
Type?