Post by mixedsyles on Mar 2, 2020 16:57:28 GMT
I thought that I was secure attached but I’m not sure anymore. I think my parents are both DAs but I remember them as being loving and warm most of the time. I know my parents love me, I know they want the best for me and I know I can count with them if life gets complicated. They would help if I lost my job and home, they will take care of me if I get sick but I am not sure how close to them I’m emotionally. I would never talk to them about things that makes me sad. I don’t talk to my parents or close friends about things that’s makes me sad and embarrassed. I don’t feel comfortable talking about those things with romantic partners either but I some times I just felt like I had to open up more to them.
The thing is that I don’t think I need so much emotional support from others. I believe I can deal with shit things that happens in life by myself. And the true is I’m a happy person most of the times. Facing problems doesn’t affect so much my life quality, I am still able to make a good job, meet my friends, go the gym, sleep and eat well and I can’t be sad for too long. Some days or a week is what I need to be just fine. I can still go back to the bad memories and be sad later if I want to but just for a moment. I thought it was resilience but could it be avoidance? But I do feel anxious too but I feel more “comfortable” feeling anxious than “numb”.
Anyway I recognize traits from the all attachment styles on me but I don’t witch one fits me best. Differents tests shows differents results and I think my mood influences my answers too so not so accurate.
Is it common for insecure attached people to feel more happy than unhappy in life even if they are dealing with trauma? Because I did have some traumatic events in life but but I’m still doing just fine!
The thing is that I don’t think I need so much emotional support from others. I believe I can deal with shit things that happens in life by myself. And the true is I’m a happy person most of the times. Facing problems doesn’t affect so much my life quality, I am still able to make a good job, meet my friends, go the gym, sleep and eat well and I can’t be sad for too long. Some days or a week is what I need to be just fine. I can still go back to the bad memories and be sad later if I want to but just for a moment. I thought it was resilience but could it be avoidance? But I do feel anxious too but I feel more “comfortable” feeling anxious than “numb”.
Anyway I recognize traits from the all attachment styles on me but I don’t witch one fits me best. Differents tests shows differents results and I think my mood influences my answers too so not so accurate.
Is it common for insecure attached people to feel more happy than unhappy in life even if they are dealing with trauma? Because I did have some traumatic events in life but but I’m still doing just fine!