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Post by tnr9 on Mar 23, 2020 13:56:09 GMT
I am very curious how those who are secure handle disappointment with yourself? Missed opportunity etc. hard to go into specifics since I am looking for more of a general answer.
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Post by Deleted on Mar 24, 2020 0:26:18 GMT
used to beat myself up alot more. now it's just... meh, another day in my life. pay attention to what you want to get, put efforts there, and then celebrate the little wins. there're too many things in life to be excelling at everything and take all opportunities - all i need to do is one thing well, and that might just be "figuring out how to install zoom today".
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Post by number9 on Mar 24, 2020 4:21:08 GMT
used to beat myself up alot more. now it's just... meh, another day in my life. pay attention to what you want to get, put efforts there, and then celebrate the little wins. there're too many things in life to be excelling at everything and take all opportunities - all i need to do is one thing well, and that might just be "figuring out how to install zoom today". Ha! I just finished installing zoom. (I know that's off topic, but...) |
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Post by nyc718 on Mar 24, 2020 21:48:07 GMT
I am very curious how those who are secure handle disappointment with yourself? Missed opportunity etc. hard to go into specifics since I am looking for more of a general answer. I am human, we are all human, and we make mistakes, that's it. I made the decisions I made at the time with the information I had at the time. No need to beat myself up. Everything is a lesson learned. |
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Post by tnr9 on Mar 25, 2020 15:30:08 GMT
I am very curious how those who are secure handle disappointment with yourself? Missed opportunity etc. hard to go into specifics since I am looking for more of a general answer. I am human, we are all human, and we make mistakes, that's it. I made the decisions I made at the time with the information I had at the time. No need to beat myself up. Everything is a lesson learned. I think this perspective is finally sinking in.... |
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Post by nyc718 on Mar 26, 2020 2:05:59 GMT
I am human, we are all human, and we make mistakes, that's it. I made the decisions I made at the time with the information I had at the time. No need to beat myself up. Everything is a lesson learned. I think this perspective is finally sinking in.... Think of it this way: are you kind to the people you love when they make mistakes? Be that kind to yourself too <3 |
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Post by AM on Jun 18, 2020 23:19:02 GMT
Two words "Move On" Be kind to yourself, learn from others and yourself, breath, let it go and let it be... As a Secure, I simply move on and try again, go a different direction, etc. I am kind to myself and others and love and accept myself, flaws and all and I move forward  |
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Post by tnr9 on Jun 19, 2020 0:04:23 GMT
Two words "Move On" Be kind to yourself, learn from others and yourself, breath, let it go and let it be... As a Secure, I simply move on and try again, go a different direction, etc. I am kind to myself and others and love and accept myself, flaws and all and I move forward Thanks....I wrote this a few months back and what I think is setting in for me is accepting being only responsible for my end of things and not taking another person’s perspective of me too personally. |
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Post by AM on Jun 25, 2020 18:21:40 GMT
Two words "Move On" Be kind to yourself, learn from others and yourself, breath, let it go and let it be... As a Secure, I simply move on and try again, go a different direction, etc. I am kind to myself and others and love and accept myself, flaws and all and I move forward Thanks....I wrote this a few months back and what I think is setting in for me is accepting being only responsible for my end of things and not taking another person’s perspective of me too personally. |
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Post by AM on Jun 25, 2020 18:33:48 GMT
100% responsibility isn't one sided, it's not only taking responsibility for every aspect, every choice, every relationship within your life, it's also not taking responsibility for what is anyone else's. 100% responsibility is learning where you end and another begins, aka agency, in others, in yourself, and owning what's yours, and not owning what is someone else's So I don't step on someone's agency, I step back and ask myself what is my role and if it's not, I take a breath and move on! |
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